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I think the fact that you're making a huge effort to monitor your own facial expression out of insecurity is going to have a more negative effect than being "feminine" or smiling too much.
I had a guy confess to me on the second date or so that he was constantly worried about appearing feminine. I'd already picked up on his insecure nature and had decided to roll with it, because he was a pretty cool guy. Hadn't even occurred to me to think of him as effeminate (and I tend to date overtly masculine men). But after that, all I could think was that here was a guy who wasn't comfortable in his own skin and who was completely insecure. HUGE turn off.
Own who you are. Be you.
The only exception is if you have serious character flaws - then you work on those though, not hide them.
My guy smiles when he laughs and when he's happy... I love it. But he only really started getting that way after seeing me... so in a way, he was unsmiling before. But now that we are together, I like that he seems happy.
But Banned has a point that a few studies show that most women like men who don't smile. But one thing I noticed in the studies:
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One thing to keep in mind: The study measured just sexual attractiveness, not whether women are interested in carrying on a relationship with a sullen, unsmiling dude.
Something to consider. Maybe looking moody can attract... but can it keep a woman's attention? I think if after dating the man I am seeing now, if he stayed sour and moody-like, I would lose interest a bit because there is only so much "miserable" I can take. And while I know this statement can seem very self centered and I may be out in left field with this, it makes me feel good to know he's happier now that we are together--I feel like I've improved his life and that makes me feel good. The result it it makes me happier to be around him the happier he seems.
There you have the question. I already have a somewhat feminine look and personality, so I tend to counter that with a serious countenance in public. Would I be doing myself more favors if I smiled a lot?
Perhaps you would be doing yourself more favours if you simply be yourself. Because there are few things I can think of that are _less_ attractive than someone desperately pretending to be something they are not in an attempt to me _more_ attractive.
Perhaps you would be doing yourself more favours if you simply be yourself. Because there are few things I can think of that are _less_ attractive than someone desperately pretending to be something they are not in an attempt to me _more_ attractive.
I think this is true. And why would a person "not" want to be themselves? Just because some studies might show a "majority" of women don't like smiling, that's not "all" women. So some women do like smiling men. Think of it this way, if there are 10 women in a room and 6 want you to scowl, but 4 like who you are--wouldn't you be better off interacting with the 4 instead of pretending to be someone else for one of the 6?
There you have the question. I already have a somewhat feminine look and personality, so I tend to counter that with a serious countenance in public. Would I be doing myself more favors if I smiled a lot?
That's probably true. Women prefer masculine alpha males that have a mean streak and will control them and everybody else. They want somebody they can respect and usually that person treats them like crap. The bigger the arrsehole, the more they like.
There you have the question. I already have a somewhat feminine look and personality, so I tend to counter that with a serious countenance in public. Would I be doing myself more favors if I smiled a lot?
LOL!!!
Be careful, you might attract a male stalker. I myself have a rather feminine face. (especially now that my hair has somewhat grown out) I do try to maintain a masculine vibe. Unfortunately, that can attract as much (sick) male attention as attention from the women. Better be ready for those control freaks.
On a serious note, I think you have to find something that works for you. It is okay to smile at times. However, if you over do it, you might find yourself in a situation with someone who sees you as weak and will try to tak advantage of you in every way he can.
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I myself have a rather feminine face. (especially now that my hair has somewhat grown out) I do try to maintain a masculine vibe. Unfortunately, that can attract as much (sick) male attention as attention from the women. Better be ready for those control freaks. 
