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I've posted in here a bit the last couple months. I moved in with my gf who has three kids. It's awesome I love it but why do I let **** bother me. She's amazing but she will come up to me and rub my crotch and it's affectionate and fun and she says it keeps things fun and it does but then I immediate think did she do this with the father of the kids? Why does it bother me? Past is the past but I can't get over these stupid things that I never cared about before when we met but now that I moved in and care and love her more this **** ruins my mood causing me not to be myself. She picks up on it and I've talked about it but don't want her to know it bothers me because I love everything she does it's just my way of thinking.
Yes. She did. She probably had sex with him. At least three times.
IMO your thinking is irrational and unhealthy. Unless you start dating virgins in the future you will always have this problem. Counseling could help you with this, and also maybe some for your GF's parenting issues?
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We'll whatever the case maybe I guess I just needed to vent. I've always had a problem with worrying about **** I can't change and not enough about the **** I can change.
I don't want to think about it honestly but I can't fake my emotions I wear them on my sleeve. How do you not think about stuff
Some of that just comes with maturity, but some of it comes by pure will and determination to make better choices.
You are allowing yourself to be ruled by your emotions.
This means your very unconscious ego is in charge of your life.
Make some effort to read up on this stuff and correct your behavior before you drive yourself crazy.
Yeah, it's not so much the virgin issue but she just told me he was so mean to her and that when she had sex with him she wanted to blow her brains out and that he punished her and she had low self esteem
Yeah, it's not so much the virgin issue but she just told me he was so mean to her and that when she had sex with him she wanted to blow her brains out and that he punished her and she had low self esteem
You need to work this out. Honestly, you should have worked this out before moving into a house with kids. But at least your asking for opinions and that's a start.
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You need to work this out. Honestly, you should have worked this out before moving into a house with kids. But at least your asking for opinions and that's a start.
I think she should have thought a bit harder about moving such an immature guy into the house too.
I think she should have thought a bit harder about moving such an immature guy into the house too.
I think you need to layoff the guy. At least he admits he has a problem and is looking for advice to fix it. That's more than I can say for most people.
I think you need to layoff the guy. At least he admits he has a problem and is looking for advice to fix it. That's more than I can say for most people.
Yes, and no.
When kids are involved you are supposed to do what is in their best interest not yours.
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I think you need to layoff the guy. At least he admits he has a problem and is looking for advice to fix it. That's more than I can say for most people.
While I too applaud his efforts to better understand himself, this kind of crap needs to have been dealt with LONG before there are young kids in the picture.
Like Djuna I question the mother's judgement in moving a guy at this stage of matury in with her children. I would not have done it.
He said at first it didn't bother him but as he started to grow toward her these emotions surfaced.
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