Would you guys cook for your girlfriend on Valentine's day (best, Hawaii)
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I cook for my wife at least one meal every day. But she won't let me cook for her on Valentine's Day. That's my birthday!! She always makes a great meal for the two of us, and I love dessert!!
We had a long distance marriage for 6 years before we both retired. Most of our Valentine dinners were at a restaurant somewhere between our homes. But on her weekends to come to my house, I always cooked.
I guess it all depends on the woman and what she likes. I hope your friends gf really would be blown away by him cooking up something nice. And if she is into the whole romance bit, then yeah, candlelight is best. If he's really not the type to ever do anything like this, anything is good. LOL.
Personally, I'm not into celebrating V-day. Mostly because it's all about bragging to other people about what your "man did for you". For myself, if he cooked, honestly, I'd be nice and grateful but couldn't give a damn. If he took me out to a nice restaurant, same thing. I'd be nice and thankful, but yeah, don't really care. You wanna show me you love me, do it on a day that's not V-day and do something that *I* would like and appreciate because it came from the heart, not something you think will get you brownie points.
The men in my life may have gotten off easy because I don't require all the romancing of that day (or any other "special" day), however, they find it more difficult to figure out what I want without it being trite.
I guess it all depends on the woman and what she likes. I hope your friends gf really would be blown away by him cooking up something nice. And if she is into the whole romance bit, then yeah, candlelight is best. If he's really not the type to ever do anything like this, anything is good. LOL.
Personally, I'm not into celebrating V-day. Mostly because it's all about bragging to other people about what your "man did for you". For myself, if he cooked, honestly, I'd be nice and grateful but couldn't give a damn. If he took me out to a nice restaurant, same thing. I'd be nice and thankful, but yeah, don't really care. You wanna show me you love me, do it on a day that's not V-day and do something that *I* would like and appreciate because it came from the heart, not something you think will get you brownie points.
The men in my life may have gotten off easy because I don't require all the romancing of that day (or any other "special" day), however, they find it more difficult to figure out what I want without it being trite.
Personally, I'm not into celebrating V-day. Mostly because it's all about bragging to other people about what your "man did for you".
When I have lived in the USA, next day after V-day its pretty much that. Women talking about what their man bought them, where their man took them, what their man cooked, etc. while the guys talked about what they bought for her, where they took her, what they cooked, etc. In Asia it is the women who enjoy romancing their man like that when it comes to V-Day or any other day. A month later (March 14th) it is the men who romance their woman like in western countries.
When I have lived in the USA, next day after V-day its pretty much that. Women talking about what their man bought them, where their man took them, what their man cooked, etc. while the guys talked about what they bought for her, where they took her, what they cooked, etc. In Asia it is the women who enjoy romancing their man like that when it comes to V-Day or any other day. A month later (March 14th) it is the men who romance their woman like in western countries.
My XH, who was very materialistic, was a bit put off that I didn't brag about where he took me for V-day. I should have realized then that the relationship was a mistake. LOL.
I was always a rare kind in this essence. Back in the mid-90's, my then bf told his friends what he bought me for V-day one year, all of them, and their gf's, told him he was in major hot water and that I was going to be super angry. What did he get me? He had fog lights installed on my car. One of the best gifts I have ever gotten. I was so happy!!! What made it great was that he knew I wanted them, but couldn't afford them at the time. Oh, and I think we had burgers for dinner. I <3 burgers. So I was very happy.
That's why I said, I think it's more important to know what your SO really truly appreciates. If V-day is important to her and she needs to be wined and dined, then do it. If she would love for you to cook for her, do it. BUT, you have to truly know her. Sooooo many women say, "it's okay, you don't have to do anything" but don't mean it at all then get angry when a man doesn't do it. I say it and some men don't believe me, so I tell them, get me a card, I'll be happy. That way, he feels like he did something and I appreciate it.
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