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My first couple of Ex's just dropped off the face of the planet.. after that, things got interesting.
My hubby is actually a previous ex of mine. We stopped talking for nearly two years after the first breakup - then we became awesome friends. I knew I still loved him and he knew that he still loved me.
However, I was dating a now ex.. I shall re-name him Jill. Jill will never be spoken to ever again. He slashed his own mother's tires to try and put me in jail.
Another ex, let's call him Suzy. Well, he's my daughter's sperm donor, so I have to talk to him.. but I don't think I can be-friend him after the whole.... he cheated and gave me an STD thing.
Hi K, you are right about exes sometimes having the potential to becoming more.
But I personally feel that you can only be friends with an ex at least 6months after the break-up. Either party might still have strong feelings about the other right after the break-up.
p.s does your hubby get jealous about you being so cool/ on talking terms with Suzy's 'dad' though?
divorce revisited.
its that magical moment in life when somebody decides they would rather
have the cash than you? kind of time to move on after that no?
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My wasband, who I am sep from, I just wanted things to be civil for the sake of our children, but he wont allow it.
I tried, I tried, I tried. Maybe one day he will turn around, but I have faith int he fact that I know I tried.
We can do what we want, but we cannot change another person to have them do what we think is best.. they just have to do whatever... in their own time.
Even for those people that say it's ok, I bet it still bothers them deep down when their S.O. is in contact with exes. If you loved someone how could that not bother you?
Even for those people that say it's ok, I bet it still bothers them deep down when their S.O. is in contact with exes. If you loved someone how could that not bother you?
I understand what you are saying but I guess it depends on the situation. My husband really is not jealous of my ex husband. He even suggests calling and inviting him when we have a family gathering. But, if he and I were making goo-goo eyes at each other it would be different. But we are not.
Actually, I think that if you gave them a chance you would see that you can, indeed, be friends with past boyfriends. If they enjoyed your company and liked you as a person they will often be happy to maintain a platonic friendship with you. It is sometimes a bit awkward at first because you don;'t want to be too friendly lest they misread your intentions, but I have always found that after a few months you can have very pleasant conversations with exes without there being any misunderstandings or hurt feelings. I think the key is to never have a bad breakup. If there are no accusations or fights... simply a change of heart about the relationship... and it is an amicable split, then there should be no problems.
Well see in my situation in past the man always want sex from me when I only want friendship. I can not control these man no matter how much I keep telling all them what to do. If I leave on good term they still want me for only sex. Sometimes I do give this to them just to keep these people happy because I bothered by them with begging.
My boyfriend of over 2 years & I broke up over some very complicated matters.
Just a bit over a year later my sister let me know that she had been on a few dates with him over the last few weeks & she thought it was going to get serious.
At first I was taken aback & didn't like the thought of her & him together. When I thought of it I made a sour face (I wish I had a Smilie for that!) But after thinking about it for awhile & seeing them together, I came to the realization that they were happy. Much happier than him & I.
Now, 6 years later they are still together. They have built a good life together & he is a good father figure for my neice who has been without a man in her life since her birth.
Him & I are friends. We joke around like brother/sister in laws! It has been so long, I don't even look at him anymore like an ex.
I think it worked out nicely & yes it is possible!
My boyfriend of over 2 years & I broke up over some very complicated matters.
Just a bit over a year later my sister let me know that she had been on a few dates with him over the last few weeks & she thought it was going to get serious.
At first I was taken aback & didn't like the thought of her & him together. When I thought of it I made a sour face (I wish I had a Smilie for that!) But after thinking about it for awhile & seeing them together, I came to the realization that they were happy. Much happier than him & I.
Now, 6 years later they are still together. They have built a good life together & he is a good father figure for my neice who has been without a man in her life since her birth.
Him & I are friends. We joke around like brother/sister in laws! It has been so long, I don't even look at him anymore like an ex.
I think it worked out nicely & yes it is possible!
I could be friends with my ex's if that is all they wanted...but have found, some men, no, a lot of men, "Think" remaining friends is having an intimate physical relationship, and for me, that is far from the meaning, and actually insults me and sickens me when they expect more. I have a lot of wonderful close female friends, but would never think of having a physical relationship with them...why do men think friends between the two sexes are any different?
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Jill will never be spoken to ever again. He slashed his own mother's tires to try and put me in jail.
