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View Poll Results: Did you propose to your husband (or former husband)?
Yes 1 9.09%
No 10 90.91%
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Old 01-15-2014, 06:16 PM
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Did you propose to your husband?
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Old 01-15-2014, 06:27 PM
 
Location: Up above the world so high!
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Don't you think that for at least the last handful of decades, a "proposal" is just a formality?

I mean, MOST couples come to the decision to marry together over time and are well aware of where they stand before any ring shopping.

The asking is just a nice romantic tradition.

A tradition woman enjoy having their men adhere to more than most men would enjoy being asked.
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Old 01-15-2014, 07:03 PM
 
Location: The point of no return, er, NorCal
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I fancy the idea of proposing. I think it's awesome.
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Old 01-15-2014, 07:29 PM
 
Location: a primitive state
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I didn't propose but I did tell my future husband that I would like to get married. He'd given me every impression that he wasn't planning to ever marry again, so I figured it would be a good idea to let him know what my goal was.

No one ever proposed, but we did get married. Very strange how it all worked out.
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Old 01-16-2014, 12:36 AM
 
Location: Copenhagen, Denmark
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Her words were, "If you asked me to marry you, I wouldn't say no."

At the time, I had not planned on marrying her. Since she had never been married and had been involved in a series of semi-monogamous long-term relationships, I didn't think marriage was an option. She was very independant and i thought that marriage would be too restrictive for her. I just hoped we'd stay together, for as long as we could.

When I asked her what marriage would add to our relationship, her reply was something like: "I never wanted to marry anyone before".

We got married in 1998.
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Old 01-16-2014, 08:14 AM
 
Location: Up in the air
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I don't think I've ever come across a couple where one of them proposed and it was a complete surprise...all of them had discussed it and agreed upon it and the proposal was nothing more than a formality, if it happened at all.

Interestingly though, my Mother proposed to my Father.
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Old 01-16-2014, 08:18 AM
 
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I don't think I've ever come across a couple where one of them proposed and it was a complete surprise...all of them had discussed it and agreed upon it and the proposal was nothing more than a formality, if it happened at all.

Interestingly though, my Mother proposed to my Father.
I've been proposed to twice and both times it was a complete surprise. I also said "no", because the only discussions we had revolved around me not wanting to get married.
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Old 08-15-2015, 05:09 PM
 
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I don't know when it started - couldn't have been more than a year into the relationship when she started hinting about marriage. Said that her mom was starting to "hear wedding bells" and then immediately after I graduated university (in hindsight I think she was just desperate for an excuse to get out of the house and a little distance from her mom). I never agreed, to the best of my knowledge I always remained silent and just let the subject drop. Then she told me where she wanted to get married (for a reason which I now believe she was mistaken about her grandparents or she was lying) and, oh, that I would have to become a Catholic. I knew she was a Catholic, but never was it an issue and she was about as non-religious as they get; but yeah, I'd have to become a Catholic. I was fairly liberal back then, wasn't very informed about the finer aspects of difference and dictates of various Christian denominations. But now I know better; the old saying is true: once a Catholic, always a Catholic. Needless to say, the relationship began to go into decline.
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Old 08-16-2015, 12:06 PM
 
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proposing I feel is too far for women to do, making the first move, starting a conversation or asking out on a date would be nice if women did more often
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