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I was doing a little research on the Real Housewives of Beverly Hills. If you're familiar with the show, Yolanda is married to David Foster and she is his 5th wife. That led me to thinking, do people have a limit? The max I'll ever be is wife number 3. What about you?
ETA: Semantics, semantics, semantics... However, I'm sure you know what I'm trying to say.
Well, I only want a man who was married for more than 40 years to one of his wives...that way, I know he is trained and housebroke already. And he won't be out looking for anyone younger than me.
Well, I only want a man who was married for more than 40 years to one of his wives...that way, I know he is trained and housebroke already. And he won't be out looking for anyone younger than me.
Haha! That's a wonderful response. Just hope that he hasn't forgotten all that training!
I think it's a good idea to listen very carefully to what the person says caused his or her divorce(s). This will give you a clue about what kinds of issues this person has. Also bear in mind that you're only hearing his or her side of the story, so you're not getting the whole picture.
My first marriage was to a man much older who had been married and divorced twice before. He said that his first wife just left him without saying why, and he still didn't know. (This should have been a clue that he lacked insight into other people's feelings). He told me his second wife was a nag. (This should have warned me that he must have been giving her plenty to nag complain and nag about). I felt sorry for him, thought he was a misunderstood genius, and that I was the one who could finally make him happy.
Not long after the marriage, I happened to meet the second wife when I stopped by at her apartment to drop off some mail for their daughter. Much to my surprise, Wife #2 was warm, charming and gracious, and I instantly liked her. Though she had every reason to not to like me, if she did, she was every inch a lady and didn't let it show.
Looking back, I can now see that this small incident changed my perspective on my husband. It planted a seed that grew until I, too, realized that this man had deep-seated problems that no woman could ever fix. Three years later, I became Ex-Wife #3.
I would be willing to be a third wife again because everyone's circumstances are different, but I would be really, really careful to know the man's character well before deciding to commit.
First marriage = starter marriage
Second marriage = rebound marriage
But there would have to be a lot of years between the second and the third. And therapy. And self-awareness-seeking. Basically, he would have to really know himself and know what went wrong both times, and be willing to fix that part of himself that fed into the dissolution.
Sorry if you been married and divorced more than twice, something is wrong with you. I ain't having it.
I agree. I might (stress might)consider a man who had been married once before if the marriage was a short lived civil marriage (especially if he was young) and there were no kids. I once knew a guy who got married in Vegas one drunk night and got the marriage annulled right away. This would be okay. However yes once you get past two marriages there is something wrong and it's that person's fault. I am someone who believes in death due us part so unless you have a good reason to have been married especially multiple times I'll pass you by.
Ironically one of my exes has been divorced THREE times. There is definitely something wrong with him, which is why I am his exgirlfriend, not exwife. He's definitely not someone I enjoyed dating to begin with because he was weird, like obsessed with marriage and having babies (he has 4). He was also a lousy boyfriend more into himself. I'm sure he's still like that, otherwise he wouldn't be divorced three times.
Sorry if you been married and divorced more than twice, something is wrong with you. I ain't having it.
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Originally Posted by Raena77
After two times I would question what happened in both situations.
Now.. (keep in mind, I agree with both of you)... What if this person has sought out professional help to improve him or her self after the most recent marriage?
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