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I might date someone with a dog, but I couldn't consider getting serious with them. I have terrible dog allergies. I was innoculated against cat dander, as I had one when doing injection therapy; but I never planned to have a dog. So that would have to be that.
I mean, look ... I love my cat. I really do. He's a great cat. But he's not a person. If I met someone that I was totally crazy about (and vice versa), and he just wasn't into pets but was into me, I'm picking the person first.
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People who love their dogs that much, I'm sorry to be ugly, but you don't want them. I can guarantee you that they will NEVER choose you over a dog, ever, I don't care if they have kids and you save one of their kids from drowning & you're a great person in every way and even would tolerate a dog if you could but you can't because of an allergy condition. It won't matter. That dog is God to them and you will never compare.
If you get married to them, that dog will be in bed with you both & constantly be in the way and she'd kick you out the bed in 5 seconds if you don't act like it's the most wonderful thing since the invention of the wheel. I guarantee it. Even if you are okay with the dog overall but want it outside & not inside so much, or it's fine to be in the living room but you don't want it in the dining area "begging" or in your bedroom, it doesn't matter. You will ALWAYS be second place to this dog, ALWAYS, period.
It's a mental sickness if you ask me, but it is what it is. They don't realize that a dog's love is unconditional because it's too STUPID to know any differently, that true love comes from someone (a human, you think?) who is smart enough to know what a jerk you can be or what a witch you can be, or that you sometimes hog the bed or forget to refill the toilet rolls after being told a million times--yet, despite KNOWING this, still loves you. A dog, cat, ferret, ANY pet, they don't have the brains to know better, that's why they love you. Heck, Adolf Hitler's dogs loved him. Case closed.
You will NEVER be able to compromise with them, any, period, not even 1-billionth of a per cent. If that dog required a $3500 procedure to extend its life for 3 days longer and it meant you having to sell your boat and all your golf clubs to pay for it, you will be expected to or else you will be seen as the biggest witch of all-time.
I've seen it many times before. I don't know what it is about the more hard-core dog lovers, but they really are that intense about it. If it came down to their dog or their children, spouse, job AND house, they'd give all of that up over some silly mutt without batting an eye.
You have no chance. It's not you, it's not even the dog--it's THEM. Run, now. They can meet someone else who loves dogs and won't mind all of this, you can meet someone else like you who thinks it all silly, everyone will be happier.
If you're married, your spouse comes first--over a dog, cat, ferret, even the children, your spouse is supposed to be FIRST. If you are not prepared to do that, don't get married.
This person, I promise you, will always choose that dog over you, always. They don't deserve you, they don't want you, they are already married--to their dog. You would be the mistress, always, you will never be anything else.
I am not a dog person. Never have been. I think they smell and eat their own poo. No way do I want one in my house.
I recently went to a party at a friend's house and started talking with someone who mentioned their dog. Not only is it in their small NYC apartment, but its a large (75 pound) dog with lots of hair. I shudder to think about this.
A friend started complaining that she thought the dog guy was cute, but when he asked for her number later, she wouldn't give it, saying she "didn't want to lead him on- he's a dog person." She, like myself, is clearly not. I got this, completely, but another friend said "Are you kidding? Just go out with him. You can worry about the dog later."
I realized that throughout my dating life, I, too, have avoided the self-professed "dog people" because I know I never ever want a dog. If the person has a large breed, I REALLY crossed them off the list. I wonder if I should have just "worried about the dog later."
Any thoughts?
I would say you probably missed a great opportunity to get to know a great guy.
I guess it is a good thing you don't mind being single for a very long time since you have cut your dating choices by about 85%.
By the way, not all dogs smell terrible and not all dogs eat their own poo, sometimes they eats another dogs poo or get their snacks out of the kitty litter box........
I am not a dog person. Never have been. I think they smell and eat their own poo. No way do I want one in my house.
I recently went to a party at a friend's house and started talking with someone who mentioned their dog. Not only is it in their small NYC apartment, but its a large (75 pound) dog with lots of hair. I shudder to think about this.
A friend started complaining that she thought the dog guy was cute, but when he asked for her number later, she wouldn't give it, saying she "didn't want to lead him on- he's a dog person." She, like myself, is clearly not. I got this, completely, but another friend said "Are you kidding? Just go out with him. You can worry about the dog later."
I realized that throughout my dating life, I, too, have avoided the self-professed "dog people" because I know I never ever want a dog. If the person has a large breed, I REALLY crossed them off the list. I wonder if I should have just "worried about the dog later."
Any thoughts?
I don't think I would count someone out for having a dog.. however it would definitely not be anything in their favor.
It would be a dealbreaker if they didn't like my cat though!
People who love their dogs that much, I'm sorry to be ugly, but you don't want them. I can guarantee you that they will NEVER choose you over a dog, ever, I don't care if they have kids and you save one of their kids from drowning & you're a great person in every way and even would tolerate a dog if you could but you can't because of an allergy condition. It won't matter. That dog is God to them and you will never compare.
If you get married to them, that dog will be in bed with you both & constantly be in the way and she'd kick you out the bed in 5 seconds if you don't act like it's the most wonderful thing since the invention of the wheel. I guarantee it. Even if you are okay with the dog overall but want it outside & not inside so much, or it's fine to be in the living room but you don't want it in the dining area "begging" or in your bedroom, it doesn't matter. You will ALWAYS be second place to this dog, ALWAYS, period.
It's a mental sickness if you ask me, but it is what it is. They don't realize that a dog's love is unconditional because it's too STUPID to know any differently, that true love comes from someone (a human, you think?) who is smart enough to know what a jerk you can be or what a witch you can be, or that you sometimes hog the bed or forget to refill the toilet rolls after being told a million times--yet, despite KNOWING this, still loves you. A dog, cat, ferret, ANY pet, they don't have the brains to know better, that's why they love you. Heck, Adolf Hitler's dogs loved him. Case closed.
You will NEVER be able to compromise with them, any, period, not even 1-billionth of a per cent. If that dog required a $3500 procedure to extend its life for 3 days longer and it meant you having to sell your boat and all your golf clubs to pay for it, you will be expected to or else you will be seen as the biggest witch of all-time.
I've seen it many times before. I don't know what it is about the more hard-core dog lovers, but they really are that intense about it. If it came down to their dog or their children, spouse, job AND house, they'd give all of that up over some silly mutt without batting an eye.
You have no chance. It's not you, it's not even the dog--it's THEM. Run, now. They can meet someone else who loves dogs and won't mind all of this, you can meet someone else like you who thinks it all silly, everyone will be happier.
If you're married, your spouse comes first--over a dog, cat, ferret, even the children, your spouse is supposed to be FIRST. If you are not prepared to do that, don't get married.
This person, I promise you, will always choose that dog over you, always. They don't deserve you, they don't want you, they are already married--to their dog. You would be the mistress, always, you will never be anything else.
I honor her to not leading him on. Dog IS a big issue and dog deserves a family which take care of it well Dog people many times choose their dog over a date if she or he does not like dogs. I appreciate people who don't date people with dogs if they don't like dogs.
I would say you probably missed a great opportunity to get to know a great guy.
I guess it is a good thing you don't mind being single for a very long time since you have cut your dating choices by about 85%.
By the way, not all dogs smell terrible and not all dogs eat their own poo, sometimes they eats another dogs poo or get their snacks out of the kitty litter box........
85%? That isn't true at all. I know far more people who have no pets than pets, and even more who have cats than dogs. But I have lived in cities all my life, and dogs are just not that practical in most smaller urban homes.
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Dog people many times choose their dog over a date if she or he does not like dogs. I appreciate people who don't date people with dogs if they don't like dogs.
