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Circumstance and access are at least as important as the attributes that a person might possess. Just being in an environment with lots of available single people of the appropriate gender and age, is a crucial advantage. It is better to be below-average in such circumstances, than to be a potentially stellar candidate living in married-with-children exurbia, in a house with a 400' driveway surrounded by forest.
Truly successful people have good sense of timing, passing through life's stages in good order. They pirouette across the party-scene as young adults, assiduously build their careers 5 years later, settle into family life after that, balance home-life and work-life, raise well-motivated children, and retire comfortably. Do any of those things out of sequence, and success will be elusive, even if the thing in question is done masterfully well.
Strongly disagree. What you need are more meetup.com activities and you need to do activities that expose you to the people you are seeking. Then network through them or use dating online and work through references from friends. You do this, there's no order that wins or loses. If you are too successful, that's not a downer at all. You show interest in women then nothing of career that's too good works against you.
Runner-up: The guy 2nd-most likely to be single is the guy who doesn't make a move, because he's afraid, mentally weak, and/or makes silly generalizations (i.e. "she's hot therefore there's a 100% chance she's taken"). Put simply, the guy who doesn't try.
OP's situation isn't very good as far as attracting women is concerned (especially the social awkwardness), but there are more than a few guys in his shoes who have girlfriends.
Well, if she's hot 9 times out of 10 she ain't single lol. Guys who think that are usually correct.
Am I right? I seem to be proof that I'm right at least, lol.
Not necessarily. Having a good or crummy job isn't the make or break in this situation. It's the guy with an awful or lack of personality, lack of confidence, and also terrible social skills that would lead him into singledom for all of eternity. As others have said, you can fix your job status by applying for new and better jobs and eventually leave your job when the opportunity arises.
However, it is more important to work towards improving yourself socially if you want to date and have a good relationship with someone, as well as do the things that you enjoy and make you feel more confident about yourself.
The job you have usually has little bearing on a woman's desire to like or dislike you. If you are doing zero with your life, then that has a bearing on it. You can also be socially awkward and find someone to date you as plenty of girls are socially awkward.
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