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Old 01-20-2014, 08:59 PM
 
Location: Texas
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How do you go about saying it to someone you still care for deeply?
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Old 01-20-2014, 09:18 PM
 
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Damn good question.....

Hell if I know
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Old 01-20-2014, 10:37 PM
 
Location: northwest Illinois
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IF you mean this in romantic terms, then you simply have to MAKE up your mind!
Who the hell is MORE important to you???
Trying to have both is not FAIR to yourself, or them!
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Old 01-21-2014, 02:49 AM
 
Location: CA
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If you're in a committed relationship, then it's an emotional affair (at least). Then you should just come clean & end it with one party or the other.
I'm not sure if in any other situation someone needs to know. If it's an ex or another person you're dating - just focus on why it ended/is ending with them, not someone else coming into the picture.
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Old 01-21-2014, 05:20 AM
 
Location: Reno, NV
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I agree with orangeapple.

Then there's the far less common scenario when you're in an open or poly relationship, where this would be fine, and little more than another topic of conversation.
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Old 01-21-2014, 06:57 AM
 
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How do you go about saying it to someone you still care for deeply?
You can not be friends.
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Old 01-21-2014, 07:26 AM
 
Location: If I tell you, will you visit?
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How do you go about saying it to someone you still care for deeply?
You said cared for deeply, not love. It's tough but you have to man up and follow orangeapples advise.

Now stepping up to the plate, Philosophizer....phizer..phizer..phizer
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Old 01-21-2014, 07:51 AM
 
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I agree with orangeapple.

Then there's the far less common scenario when you're in an open or poly relationship, where this would be fine, and little more than another topic of conversation.
In theory, yes. In practice, not necessarily. Emotions usually trump logic.
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Old 01-21-2014, 07:53 AM
 
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Be direct, avoid gratuitous comments and accept that there's no pleasant way out of it. And don't linger, say what you have to, allow a moment for a response and then leave (and do it in person, don't be a coward and handle it via phone/email).
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Old 01-21-2014, 09:01 AM
 
Location: The Jar
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Are you ready? Here it is:

"I care deeply for you, but there is someone else."
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