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Never been in a relationship and not sure how good I'd be at it. I'm very used to being on my own and not having to compromise. I'm not much of a leader as I don't like followers and I'm not much of a follower as I don't like being led.
Ted Turner said it best when comparing the two and using sled dogs as his example.
"It's best to lead. If you are a follower the scenery never changes."
I don't think it's healthy for anyone to be totally one or another. It's very frustrating to try and discuss even going some place for lunch with someone always saying, "I don't care." "I don't care whatever you want" and never suggesting things on their own either for fear of rejection of said idea. My young cousin used to be like this and she would never express whether she liked something or bring up something on her own and her mother and I had a talk with her about it.
I'm a mix of both and prefer someone who is both as well. Not attracted to people who always have to be "in charge" and don't know/care/have the ability to step back and let others lead. One person cannot be good at everything and the only one with experience in any given situation.
In all aspects of life I'm more of a leader; also a non conformist.
I've always found that followers bore me. Every single time.
I need to be in a relationship with a leader, as well.
Someone who's not always playing by the rules- he makes his own....someone who isn't trying to be popular.
Someone who does his own thing, & could care less what the majority of people are doing.
Now, in the intimacy dept. I like to take turns, lol
Keeps it interesting
I would say even. There are times you need to play the leader role and other times let yourself be guided (esp on subjects you don't know so well).
I can't imagine always being submissive nor always trying to be superior.
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