Help! What am I doing wrong here?

[bebe182]

Originally Posted by Mikala43

I'm a pretty no nonsense wench and I think that is asking too much. Granted, I measure a guys interest by how soon he asked me out on a 2nd date, but I would have allowed that amount of time. You are not going to be someone's top priority, they hardly no you.

Sorry but every guy who was truly interested in me never waited over a week to contact me. I'm not saying I need to be a priority, but nobody is that busy that they don't have 20 seconds to shoot a quick text just to say "hey".

[weezerfan84]

Originally Posted by bebe182

Sorry but every guy who was truly interested in me never waited over a week to contact me. I'm not saying I need to be a priority, but nobody is that busy that they don't have 20 seconds to shoot a quick text just to say "hey".

You have the right idea. Why sit back and accept that someone can contact you whenever they seldom feel like? Everyone talks about us not having backbones and letting people walk over us in the dating scene. What you're doing is basically saying that what this guy did was inappropriate to you. That's you standing on your own two feet and stating that if they're truly interested, they will make that point known rather quickly. Just like when a woman is interested, she's not going to let her guy get away.

Fact is, the OP is getting her answers early, so she doesn't waste weeks and months being led on. Yes, it's going to lower her options, but I don't think the OP is looking for options either. I've given people 2 months before and we couldn't even make it to a second date. I've also had 3 dates in 72 hours before. Both are good and bad extremes, but I just can't accept someone waiting weeks to get in contact with me. It's not about them making me a priority, but it's me seeing the situation for what it is. I know if they went on a date and really liked them, they would be chomping at the bit to contact them, if they felt he waited too long. That's what the OP did. She didn't really want to wait and wanted to figure out if the guy had interest. It didn't have to be romantic interest off the bat, but at least interest to see her again. If you are wavering that much to meet again, then it's best to just end it there. No point dragging something out when there just isn't mutual interest. It sucks, but I rather get the same news in a mere few days than a few weeks or months.

People will drag your emotions along as long as you will allow them.

[bebe182]

Originally Posted by weezerfan84

You have the right idea. Why sit back and accept that someone can contact you whenever they seldom feel like? Everyone talks about us not having backbones and letting people walk over us in the dating scene. What you're doing is basically saying that what this guy did was inappropriate to you. That's you standing on your own two feet and stating that if they're truly interested, they will make that point known rather quickly. Just like when a woman is interested, she's not going to let her guy get away.

Fact is, the OP is getting her answers early, so she doesn't waste weeks and months being led on. Yes, it's going to lower her options, but I don't think the OP is looking for options either. I've given people 2 months before and we couldn't even make it to a second date. I've also had 3 dates in 72 hours before. Both are good and bad extremes, but I just can't accept someone waiting weeks to get in contact with me. It's not about them making me a priority, but it's me seeing the situation for what it is. I know if they went on a date and really liked them, they would be chomping at the bit to contact them, if they felt he waited too long. That's what the OP did. She didn't really want to wait and wanted to figure out if the guy had interest. It didn't have to be romantic interest off the bat, but at least interest to see her again. If you are wavering that much to meet again, then it's best to just end it there. No point dragging something out when there just isn't mutual interest. It sucks, but I rather get the same news in a mere few days than a few weeks or months.

People will drag your emotions along as long as you will allow them.

Well said!!! Amen!