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She may be either 1) devious 2) weak/dependent or 3) still in love with you and wants to get back together....
Some questions to explore -
Devious? - Is she trying to prove to her bf she can easily get another man? Is she playing games? Trying to make him jealous? Trying to give herself an ego boost at the expense of your feelings?
Weak/Dependent? - Does she find it hard to function independently (either emotionally or financially)? How independent is she in her lifestyle/career? How long has she been single between relationships? What is her attitude toward men?
In love with you? - Why did your relationship with her end? Why do you think you were the love of her life? How did she show you love? How did she treat you differently than other men?
Life is too short dude, if you have any feelings for her, go see her but avoid intimacy until such time that you understand what she truly wants from her life and you. Good luck
LOTS of people go out and seek companionship and more right after the loss of a relationship. That isn't my style, but honestly, I think I'm in the minority.
LOTS of people go out and seek companionship and more right after the loss of a relationship. That isn't my style, but honestly, I think I'm in the minority.
Sounds like an ex of mine. Every time he splits from a wife (he's had three and counting)or girlfriends he reappears. He just can't bear to be alone. However I have no interest in him and haven't since we split off. I would never consider taking him back.
She may be either 1) devious 2) weak/dependent or 3) still in love with you and wants to get back together....
Some questions to explore -
Devious? - Is she trying to prove to her bf she can easily get another man? Is she playing games? Trying to make him jealous? Trying to give herself an ego boost at the expense of your feelings?
Weak/Dependent? - Does she find it hard to function independently (either emotionally or financially)? How independent is she in her lifestyle/career? How long has she been single between relationships? What is her attitude toward men?
In love with you? - Why did your relationship with her end? Why do you think you were the love of her life? How did she show you love? How did she treat you differently than other men?
Good question GoCubs1, makes me really self refect and thats what I was looking for.
"Devious? - Is she trying to prove to her bf she can easily get another man? Is she playing games? Trying to make him jealous? Trying to give herself an ego boost at the expense of your feelings?"
Could be. I think some people do that automatically without thinking. I almost found myself bringing up other women that I have dated before catching my tongue. I really feel no desire in trying to make her jeolous or feel bad.
"Weak/Dependent? - Does she find it hard to function independently (either emotionally or financially)? How independent is she in her lifestyle/career? How long has she been single between relationships? What is her attitude toward men? "
She is very independant, protective mom towards her kids and friends, to a fault. Rescues everyone and every animal she finds. Makes good money but spends it all. She has many friends, men and women. Everybody loves her. Shes like the block mom, she takes care of everybody.
"In love with you? - Why did your relationship with her end? Why do you think you were the love of her life? How did she show you love? How did she treat you differently than other men?"
I was overwhelmed with her situation at home and probably withdrew first. in hindsight she was looking for a commitment and I could't see myself living in her environment. As far as the Love of my life statement almost every topic from Politics to current events we were on the same page, we travelled well together. I haven't had a lover that has even come close and I have more than a little experience. She basically knew what I was going to do before I did it and could control it. I actually got along well with her kids even though they were quite out of control many times.
Sounds like an ex of mine. Every time he splits from a wife (he's had three and counting)or girlfriends he reappears. He just can't bear to be alone. However I have no interest in him and haven't since we split off. I would never consider taking him back.
"He just can't bear to be alone. "
I can see that.
" I would never consider taking him back"
I would love to take her back but I had to back out knowing it would not work for me from a practical standpoint.
She is very independant, protective mom towards her kids and friends, to a fault. Rescues everyone and every animal she finds. Makes good money but spends it all. She has many friends, men and women. Everybody loves her. Shes like the block mom, she takes care of everybody.
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She's actually not independent at all from what you describe. She's depending on all those people who need her to make her feel needed.
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