Relocate for better chances of finding love? (dating, boyfriend, men)
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Is it a good idea to relocate to a new city/area in hopes of finding a significant other?
I am almost 30 years old, gay and have been single my entire life. I have lived in the Hartford, CT area most of my life and there's not many gays there. I have also lived for two years in NYC and absolutely hated big city life. Not to mention, it wasn't really a good place for building a real relationship.
Now, I am living in Fairfield County, CT and there's not many gays here either, just like the Hartford, CT area. I know there are more gays in the New Haven, CT area, but there's barely any jobs there in my field. I want to stay in the northeast, as I don't care for the rest of the country and I like four seasons and liberal politics.
Has anyone tried relocating to a new area and has it worked for finding someone worthy of a relationship?
I don't know what to do anymore and it's depressing. Most gay men live in super expensive cities that I don't like. I hate cities, unless they're small.
Is it a good idea to relocate to a new city/area in hopes of finding a significant other?
I am almost 30 years old, gay and have been single my entire life. I have lived in the Hartford, CT area most of my life and there's not many gays there. I have also lived for two years in NYC and absolutely hated big city life. Not to mention, it wasn't really a good place for building a real relationship.
Now, I am living in Fairfield County, CT and there's not many gays here either, just like the Hartford, CT area. I know there are more gays in the New Haven, CT area, but there's barely any jobs there in my field. I want to stay in the northeast, as I don't care for the rest of the country and I like four seasons and liberal politics.
Has anyone tried relocating to a new area and has it worked for finding someone worthy of a relationship?
I don't know what to do anymore and it's depressing. Most gay men live in super expensive cities that I don't like. I hate cities, unless they're small.
No offense nep, but haven't you posted extensively about moving on other forums here? I seem to remember you drove some folks up a wall with your lack of interest in good advice.
The reality is, everywhere you go, there you are.
When you learn to be content within yourself, your outward surroundings matter a lot less.
FYI, all this outward focus on what really amounts to lots of details is likely keeping you from finding that inner peace.
Since you've already moved around a bit recently, I suggest you try harder to just bloom where you are planted
Is it a good idea to relocate to a new city/area in hopes of finding a significant other?
I am almost 30 years old, gay and have been single my entire life. I have lived in the Hartford, CT area most of my life and there's not many gays there. I have also lived for two years in NYC and absolutely hated big city life. Not to mention, it wasn't really a good place for building a real relationship.
Now, I am living in Fairfield County, CT and there's not many gays here either, just like the Hartford, CT area. I know there are more gays in the New Haven, CT area, but there's barely any jobs there in my field. I want to stay in the northeast, as I don't care for the rest of the country and I like four seasons and liberal politics.
Has anyone tried relocating to a new area and has it worked for finding someone worthy of a relationship?
I don't know what to do anymore and it's depressing. Most gay men live in super expensive cities that I don't like. I hate cities, unless they're small.
moving won't fix the issue. The issue lies within yourself. But more importantly, Cali/philly area have quite a few gays.
No offense nep, but haven't you posted extensively about moving on other forums here? I seem to remember you drove some folks up a wall with your lack of interest in good advice.
The reality is, everywhere you go, there you are.
When you learn to be content within yourself, your outward surroundings matter a lot less.
FYI, all this outward focus on what really amounts to lots of details is likely keeping you from finding that inner peace.
Since you've already moved around a bit recently, I suggest you try harder to just bloom where you are planted
I know. I mean, I would have to have to relocate for the primary purpose of potentially finding a mate. And then, there's no guarantee that it will work out, either. I live in a metro area with over 900,000 people, which isn't that small, either. Yet it's hard to find someone.
moving won't fix the issue. The issue lies within yourself. But more importantly, Cali/philly area have quite a few gays.
Well, I don't know. I mean, I lived in NYC for two years and still had a hard time finding a boyfriend. NYC is the largest gay mecca in the country. If it didn't work there, why would it work anywhere?
Do you think you would dislike larger cities if you were in a relationship? I'm wondering if that would make a difference for you and whether it would be worth trying some on line sites and limit to the cities you could find employment in?
Well, I don't know. I mean, I lived in NYC for two years and still had a hard time finding a boyfriend. NYC is the largest gay mecca in the country. If it didn't work there, why would it work anywhere?
Well, I don't know. I mean, I lived in NYC for two years and still had a hard time finding a boyfriend. NYC is the largest gay mecca in the country. If it didn't work there, why would it work anywhere?
Actually, I think it can be HARDER to meet new people in a huge city like NYC, so don't feel badly about that.
You just have to make real effort to get yourself involved in things that will help you come in contact with more guys.
Join a sports league - volunteer to help build a Habitat for Humanity house - work on a political campaign, just put yourself out there
I'm talking about sheer population. NYC has the highest number of gay men of any metro area in the U.S. I can easily tell from looking online on gay dating websites. NYC is #1, then L.A., then Chicago, etc. Wilton Manors, FL may have a higher PERCENTAGE of gays, but not the highest NUMBER of gays.
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