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I don't know I find myself having trouble sleeping without my husband beside me. I actually even change my sleeping/body clock when he works graveyard shift. So I sleep with him in the morning and awake waiting for him to come home at night/dawn.
My husband has no prob sleeping without me though.
We were the complete opposite. My husband would practically wrap himself around me every nite and would stay that way all nite. Sometimes I would wake up a little too warm, but I wouldn't trade that closeness for anything.
WTH. If it's a medical situation that's one thing but I don't understand how you can be close by being away physically from one another. While not everyone wants to cuddle all night long, sleeping in separate beds lacks intimacy and connection with your partner.
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If it works for you then that's cool. To each their own but it's just an odd/unusual concept to me.
i think people either love or hate this idea. people who love it probably say hey common sense we both compromise over sleeping habits and nobody is ever truly happy. others seem to take the view whats the point of being married if you want to live and sleep alone or something along those lines.
my ex and i both were very indepenent liked our schedules, etc, we always said if we lived together we would have our own rooms. kinda wierd her parents had this arrangment and i always thought it kind of wierd for "grownups" but for me it seemed like a great idea lol.
anyhow, my current gf is kinda all about going to bed together. i hate it as she works 3rd shift which means going to bed at 9 or 10 pm where as i normally stay up til like 1 or 2. also i fall asleep with the tv on, she doesn't. most nights id prefer staying downstairs late watching tv and working or even sleeping on the couch with the dogs but many nights i would like to come up. i think this makes alot of sense.
We were the complete opposite. My husband would practically wrap himself around me every nite and would stay that way all nite. Sometimes I would wake up a little too warm, but I wouldn't trade that closeness for anything.
I could never sleep a wink like that. I keep the house cold at night because I can't sleep if I get too warm.
Unfortunately the time we could have most used separate bedrooms (I came home from work most days at 5am, his day started at 7am) was when we lived in a tiny one bedroom apartment.
It's not my preference but ff it works for couples, who is anyone else to judge their sleeping arrangments?
I fall asleep a lot faster snuggled up to her than I do when I am the lone person in the bed.
Not that my wife is the perfect sleep partner. She snores, she needs a lot of potty breaks over the course of a night... but I sleep like a rock and rarely get woken by any of that.
It's an unusual situation but I've heard of similar ones.
I once read about a married couple who lived in 2 different houses, though the houses were simply on facing each other, on opposite sides of the same street. The kids normally lived with mom but they of course had full access to Dad's place. Mom and Dad took turns sleeping at each other's house.
I also know of a married couple where the wife lives in another country for about half of the year.
She spends 6 months with him and spends 6 months in the other country, taking care of her parents and other business. They don't want to divorce and they think things work out alright like that.
I don't think it's anyone else's place to judge someone's relationship because they don't like to sleep in the same bed. I'm a light sleeper. Someone who snores or tosses and turns a lot would result in me never getting any sleep. Plus there are logistics like not going to bed at the same time or one person needs it totally dark and quiet and the other person likes the TV on. You could compromise, but why should one person have to lay there miserable and unable to sleep to satisfy the other person?
I don't think it's anyone else's place to judge someone's relationship because they don't like to sleep in the same bed. I'm a light sleeper. Someone who snores or tosses and turns a lot would result in me never getting any sleep. Plus there are logistics like not going to bed at the same time or one person needs it totally dark and quiet and the other person likes the TV on. You could compromise, but why should one person have to lay there miserable and unable to sleep to satisfy the other person?
Totally agree. And adding on the fatigue and crankiness that lack of sleep brings on, I'd think that sleeping apart is a small price to pay for one's mental health.
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