Women who post "don't message me if you ....." on dating sites...

[Idon'tdateyou]

Originally Posted by Liberty2011

^^^This.

I think that some who post the "don't message me if" comments are truly trying to filter out what they don't want in their lives. However, i also think that some of the ones reading feel the need to message because "no one is going to tell me who I can or cannot message", or take a jab at them for having preferences, because they fall into that person's category of non-desirable qualities.

On my profile I stated I don't date dads. I didn't say dads were evil or any of that, just that I required the guy to be childless. I got a lot of vicious comments from these men upset because I wouldn't date them. I wasn't hurting them yet they intended to hurt me.

[Lilac110]

Originally Posted by techcrium

I never understood their reasoning for this:

Alot of times, women with profiles on POF/Okcupid will post things like, "Don't message me if you are arrogant, jealous, or hurtful person!"


I mean seriously?

Is any guy going to read it and say, "Well, yeah, I am a hurtful and jealous person...so I won't message you."


That sentence achieved absolutely nothing.

Good rule of thumb: Whatever characteristics the person says they don't want, they have in spades, themselves.

[monumentus]

Originally Posted by Lilac110

Good rule of thumb: Whatever characteristics the person says they don't want, they have in spades, themselves.

Do not think that is likely a good rule at all. For example just above you one user exampled how she wanted to only date childless people - does this mean she has many children? No.

It is perfectly acceptable to indicate your preferences - and it in no way suggestes you have those preferences yourself - or are likely to.