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Old 02-02-2014, 12:05 PM
 
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I have this friend that I've known for two years, lately we've hung out often with each other. We slept twice in the same bed, the first time we only kissed, the second time we almost had sex but I stopped him because I'm confused and not sure of what I want.

The thing is, he got out of a very serious relationship a year ago,in fact he was married. They still loved each other after their breakup, they separated for another reason. Now they don't live in the same country anymore but call and text each other often.
Me on the other hand, have never been in a real relationship, never loved never had sex with anyone. I wish I could have a love relationship but for some reasons I think it will never happen to me, I also really want sex.

I have talked to him about our "relationship" he agreed that we're not exactly friends but couldn't tell what we are, he wants to have sex first and think about the rest later.

I would like to have some advice, eventually hear people who have been through the same.

I have read somewhere that having a friends with benefits for a first relationship was not a good idea, any thoughts on that?

Thanks for reading
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Old 02-02-2014, 12:17 PM
 
Location: Naptowne, Alaska
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Yeah...don't fall for that bull**** line. He just wants to hump you and still call/text his wife. Cake and eat it too sort of thing. Please don't fall for it. He will hump you and dump you no doubt about it.
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Old 02-02-2014, 12:35 PM
 
Location: MN
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I think you need to stay the hell away from this guy. He clearly doesn't know what he wants, he's still married (?) and he just wants a quick lay.

It's understandable if you're lonely and wish for love and companionship. But this is not the way to get it. Distance yourself from this "friend" and find a decent man who will actually want a real relationship with you.
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Old 02-02-2014, 12:37 PM
 
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Personally, I think you will feel very used if you have sex with this man.
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Old 02-02-2014, 12:41 PM
 
Location: State of Transition
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He wants to have sex first, then talk about the rest of the stuff later?

That's not how relationships work. It's not how friendships work. It's how booty calls work.
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Old 02-02-2014, 12:46 PM
 
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He's heart belongs to someone else. Don't do it.
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Old 02-02-2014, 12:47 PM
 
Location: Windsor, Ontario, Canada
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He wants to have sex first, then talk about the rest of the stuff later?

That's not how relationships work. It's not how friendships work. It's how booty calls work.

Yeah, I had a pretty good laugh when I read that. lol


Damn it. Now after reading her screen name, I can't get "Shake it up" by The Cars out of my head. lmao!
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Old 02-02-2014, 01:00 PM
 
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I think you need to stay the hell away from this guy. He clearly doesn't know what he wants, he's still married (?) and he just wants a quick lay.

It's understandable if you're lonely and wish for love and companionship. But this is not the way to get it. Distance yourself from this "friend" and find a decent man who will actually want a real relationship with you.
Yes he doesn't know what he want but neither do I.. Yes he's still married but his wife is far away and won't comeback. I do want love but I'm not dumb I'm not expecting it from him I just wanted to know, according to you guys, if having a fwb as a first sex experience/relationship would be a bad idea ?
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Old 02-02-2014, 01:02 PM
 
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Personally, I think you will feel very used if you have sex with this man.
That's what Im affraid of :/
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Old 02-02-2014, 01:03 PM
 
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He wants to have sex first, then talk about the rest of the stuff later?

That's not how relationships work. It's not how friendships work. It's how booty calls work.
lol okay now I feel stupid
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