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It's not a wild assumption, but it IS an assumption, because people can give compliments without it meaning something more than the words they said.
Right.
So people can't make a mental note of that?
Everything is just "people sucks and life sucks" and "deal with it".
People can't make small adjustments to make life easier for someone else?
I would never call a woman awesome and 'the best' and 'the coolest' if I had no interest in her. Especially if I were an attractive guy and she was less so. It's pretty obvious what would happen.
It's a weird and wild assumption to think that someone who calls you funny, awesome, cool, and smart might be interested in you?
Absolutely. Yo have no real way of knowing if those are traits that generate interest. I had a friend in college with whom I worked. He was funny (like a clown), awesome (of helpful and charitable inclination). He did not like doing any of the things I did. I did not want to date him. My father is smart and cool. I don't want to date him either!
Everything is just "people sucks and life sucks" and "deal with it".
People can't make small adjustments to make life easier for someone else?
How do you know other people would not enjoy a nice compliment from a person? Furthermore, I don't agree that that is the best solution for that person.
Everything is just "people sucks and life sucks" and "deal with it".
People can't make small adjustments to make life easier for someone else?
I would never call a woman awesome and 'the best' and 'the coolest' if I had no interest in her. Especially if I were an attractive guy and she was less so. It's pretty obvious what would happen.
JJS99, I think what you are experiencing is due to social conditioning. From the get go, most little girls are taught to be polite, agreeable, and non-confrontational. Most little girls are taught to soften their criticisms with a compliment. It's just the way people bring up kids in our culture. Social experiments done on little boys and little girls show over and over again that little boys are blunt and honest but little girls tend to be polite and nice. And when those little girls grow up, they stay that way, the way they were raised. The ones who don't are referred to as ... "witchy" (not with a "w" though).
Anyway, I suggest it would be easier for you, one person, to understand this social phenomena, why women act "lady-like" and act accordingly than to expect millions of women in the US to change and act more masculine.
How about if women could say what they really think, instead of what they think people want to hear. Like in the movie. Liar, Liar. It was appropriate to use a lawyer/liar, but it would be fun to see a sequel with a woman.
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