Does a More Equal Marriage Mean Less Sex? (date, lesbians, women)
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An interesting article. As it noted, they can't directly establish a link between correlation and causation, but I did find one thing rather interesting. To paraphrase a few of the paragraphs in the article:
Gay men tend to look for sexual compatibility first (what they refer to as the "initial filter"), whereas lesbians look for the same things that hetero women look for initially (goals, non-physical traits, intelligence, etc.). The end result is that, for the relationships that survive long enough to mature into RELATIONSHIPS, the gay men will have more sex than lesbians or straight couples. They note that men "prioritize the erotic" which would work in a gay relationship, but in a hetero one, men "have to deal with heterosexual women".
Not sure if all that is a defining reason for less sex in those situations, but it's food for thought.
An interesting article. As it noted, they can't directly establish a link between correlation and causation, but I did find one thing rather interesting. To paraphrase a few of the paragraphs in the article:
Gay men tend to look for sexual compatibility first (what they refer to as the "initial filter"), whereas lesbians look for the same things that hetero women look for initially (goals, non-physical traits, intelligence, etc.). The end result is that, for the relationships that survive long enough to mature into RELATIONSHIPS, the gay men will have more sex than lesbians or straight couples. They note that men "prioritize the erotic" which would work in a gay relationship, but in a hetero one, men "have to deal with heterosexual women".
Not sure if all that is a defining reason for less sex in those situations, but it's food for thought.
Hmmm, but even the priorities of hetero women can change over time. At age 46 I have a whole different view of the domestic scene than I did when I married at 26. I no longer expect to own/maintain a 3000 sf suburban mortgaged lifestyle with my partner. It was TOO MUCH work for 2 adults to do and still enjoy life. We were too dumb to see it. I have different ambitions and expectations at this point. When I meet a man with a 4 bedroom house and a mortgage who thinks he wants the right woman to come and share it with him, I think...NEXT!
I'm still looking for goals, physical traits, Intelligence and sex! And yes, we should distribute household duties equitably. I don't think that's a bad thing. If i Just wanted sexual compatibility, I would not want to live with someone else. Why bother?
Hmmm, but even the priorities of hetero women can change over time. At age 46 I have a whole different view of the domestic scene than I did when I married at 26. I no longer expect to own/maintain a 3000 sf suburban mortgaged lifestyle with my partner. It was TOO MUCH work for 2 adults to do and still enjoy life. We were too dumb to see it. I have different ambitions and expectations at this point. When I meet a man with a 4 bedroom house and a mortgage who thinks he wants the right woman to come and share it with him, I think...NEXT!
I'm still looking for goals, physical traits, Intelligence and sex! And yes, we should distribute household duties equitably. I don't think that's a bad thing. If i Just wanted sexual compatibility, I would not want to live with someone else. Why bother?
I didn't read the whole article--I only skimmed it. But I found one nugget interesting: while they say that an equal partnership supposedly lead to less sex, it also leads to less divorce (it said that where men do 40% of the chores and women earn 40% of the income there is a less likely chance of divorce).
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