How many dates have you been on the last year?

[the minx]

I've had several dates, but only with a handful of men.

[LS Jaun]

Male, maybe 15 dates total. I went out with one woman quite a few of those times. No sex or even serious kissing, but still had fun. She had no money and I felt I was her entertainment so she ended up going into the friend file.

[Ray_Finkle]

Male.
Maybe 10 dates with 5 different women.

I had a period last summer/fall where I thought I was going to date again. It didn't last long. Not that any of the dates were terrible, I'm just kinda "meh." I had sex with one of them, but only once. I got a strong feeling she was trying to get me to knock her up. The story is longer than that but I'll spare you all the details. I just kind of pulled a "slow fade" and she got the picture.

Another was the ex-girlfriend of a guy that my ex-girlfriend was cheating on me with. Weird, huh? She was WAY older than me (50 and I'm 34) but I thought she was kinda hawt. We went out 4 or 5 times but I think we were both kinda spooked, having both just come out of relationships with sociopaths, so it never really went anywhere.

One was a girl a friend of mine who works with my dad set me up with. She was about my age and divorced, had a kid, and had an STD. Plus she was very weird. Went out with her once.

One was a girl that hangs out at the same bar/restaurant that I do. We went out twice, and I thought there may be something there. She was very sassy, 27, had a decent job, but still lived with her parents, average looks. After date 2 she basically read me a list of things I was going to have to do/change/promise in order to date her. I told her to get bent.

Finally was the hairdresser that I wrote about in the "First Date Dealbreakers" thread that basically talked about money the entire time. Namely, how she had none and I probably had a lot. No thanks.

It's been pretty sad.

[Raptor76]

three, and the last one was in April I think. I haven't really been trying

[sarahbella77]

Female, probably around 6, and then met someone that I stayed with for awhile...

I just don't think I have it in me to date anymore

[jsun556]

I can only count the past 4 months for various reasons, but in those 4 months maybe about 10 or 12. Some girls even asked point blank if it was a date even though I didn't consider it.

[jillabean]

Gender: Female
Number of dates: I honestly have no clue. I didn't count. But early last year I went out on a handful of first dates with men--none of which worked out or went beyond the first date. And then I started dating an old friend. This is where I lose count and don't know what to count. For example, we went away together on a weekend. Does each meal out count as a date? Does each day count as a date? Does the whole four-day trip count as a date?). Or what about when I spend a week at his house? What do I count then?

For what it's worth though, women don't always get asked out and always have dates. It's a misconception I sometimes see here. And no, women don't go though dry spells because they are ugly or crazy or whatever. I didn't have a single date (or even flirt) from the time I was 19-26. I was invisible. Now I am older (look the same, but older looking) and I am still the same personality-wise... but dates come much easier and men approach more often. Guess I am making up for lost time now

EDIT

Originally Posted by orangeapple

AKA we are shy. I may not look approachable because I'm quiet and daydreamy. But I'm very approachable. There's just prejudice against quiet people.

I've worked on displaying a more open demeanor and I make friends much more easily now. Strangers talk to me; women, kids, fatherly men. Men within 10 yrs my age do not. Except this teenage kid at a coffee shop who winks at me but that's about his own ego.

Back during my 6 year dry spell... I asked people what it was about me that men weren't interested. I heard the same. I tend to be quiet and a daydreamer too. Even today people tell me I am "poker-faced" at times (I get that way when I am in deep thought). I had guy friends tell me that if they didn't know me, they would assume I was cold and unapproachable because I was quiet. So there is a bit of a drawback to being a quiet, day-dreamy type. I kind of had to make sure I got out of my shell more. But like I said, I am still the same person.

[Hivemind31]

I go on about two dates a week. About once per month will be with a new girl, the rest are with the same 3-4 women that I'll usually date for a few months at a time before it runs its course. I've been here (Phoenix) for about a year, and the first month or so I didn't date at all while I got situated. So...90, ish....with maybe 15 women?

I'm male.