Got a waitress phone number, texted her and never heard back (marrying, young)
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Waiting 6 months to ask for her phone number is too fast?
Maybe I should have waited a whole year thinking that no one would ask her before I did.
Seriously, we are on page 4 of this thread and you still don't get it?
6 months of you going in there all casual, not starting any small talk or getting to know her at all. Then, after 6 months of being a regular you ask her, and out of the blue? Ask her for her number after two sentences of speech? Yeah, a little out of the blue. When you say she was hesitant, it's obvious she is not interested in you.
If you can't accept this fact or see her side of it, then I pray for you, and I pray for this girl that she is not continuously bothered by you since you are ignorant of her feelings.
Seriously, we are on page 4 of this thread and you still don't get it?
6 months of you going in there all casual, not starting any small talk or getting to know her at all. Then, after 6 months of being a regular you ask her, and out of the blue? Ask her for her number after two sentences of speech? Yeah, a little out of the blue. When you say she was hesitant, it's obvious she is not interested in you.
If you can't accept this fact or see her side of it, then I pray for you, and I pray for this girl that she is not continuously bothered by you since you are ignorant of her feelings.
Wow !
I was not aware that insulting people is allowed in this forum.
The only way to successfully cold approach a woman like you did is to approach many many women and not care about the outcome.
You WILL be successful with that method. It's really the only way to successfully cold approach in the US (besides being extremely good looking or hitting on drunk girls at bars).
Look, I don't know how well you knew this girl, but usually you have more familiarity with someone (in that particular type of situation) before you make the jump to social relations outside of one's work.
When I was a server, I would get to know people. And after getting to know them, I'd get phone numbers, get invited to events/parties, go on dates/eventually relations with them or their friends/etc. There were regulars that I barely knew beyond "the usual", and I would have thought it was weird if old John from the counter asked me to go to a ballgame with him before he even knew I liked sports.
I don't know what the generalities are "these days", I'm old (30). Do people really text each other before calling? All I know is that my sister-in-law gets wiener pics from guys that she meets the same day she meets them. Things must have really changed since the early 2000s.
The only way to successfully cold approach a woman like you did is to approach many many women and not care about the outcome.
You WILL be successful with that method. It's really the only way to successfully cold approach in the US (besides being extremely good looking or hitting on drunk girls at bars).
Finally an answer that really makes sense.
At least I did not regret by not having asked her about her phone number.
Probably by now I would be asking myself things like "Why I didn't do it?" What if that would have been the last time I saw her?
Life's too short to be waiting forever and not have the courage to make things happen even if the outcome is not what we expect.
She got the message, because she went into avoidance mode the next time he came in after that. Barely spoke to him, he said.
Correct. At least that's how I felt.
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