Why is it wrong to say your attractive? (how to, girl, loving)
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You know what I find funny? Here she sits, moaning about people being upset that she describes herself as attractive. I remembered that she said she shows properties. I mean, it isn't like she's got an active thread that says she does , then, I say I find 3 of them attractive.........and it makes me a creep.
There are many creeps on here and you aren't one of them
But why? What if the person is really hot? What people always describe her that way, she dresses that way, she acts that way? I don't understand why she should be called arrogant for being called hot? I'm not saying that I am hot but I know plenty of girls who I would describe that way...Megan Fox...she's hot...is it wrong if she describes herself that way?
Plenty of smart people say they are intelligent...I'm not the least bit offended...nor do I say they are arrogant.
Maybe it's the context or the value you seem to be lending to attractiveness. Instead of saying you're attractive, say most people find you attractive. Conveys the same message with less arrogance. And don't lend it a lot of weight as if that aspect of you makes you a wonderful person.
Some of the most attractive people don't even know they are attractive, which is attractive in itself.
First of all, I find it hard to believe that someone who is truly attractive by most standards isn't aware of that. They may not consider it a redeeming feature or have learned to play ignorant about it.
But if it's true then I'm not so sure that it is a good thing. There's no doubt that being attractive is an advantage in all aspects of life; romantically, socially, financially, etc. For someone to go through life with those advantages and have no clue they have them means they couldn't possibly understand the difficulties less attractive people have. They would also have to be ignorant of human behaviour to not recognize the effects of people finding them attractive.
Serious question. I created a thread where I simply said I am attractive and people jumped all over me. Do people assume you think you're better than them for saying your an attractive person? I just never understood the negative comments that follow when someone states this. It's ok to describe yourself as intelligent, funny, ambitious, whatever, but as soon as someone says they are attractive all hell breaks loose. I get that beauty is subjective , but i think that if a majority of people agree that you are good looking, it's pretty safe to say it's true. I don't get why it's ok for others to acknowledge but your supposed to pretend that you don't know. Even when someone compliments you, your supposed to act like no one else has ever mentioned it and play it off.
I haven't seen your other thread, but on the surface, and taking this post at face value (no pun intended), I would think it's jealousy and mob mentality.
I mentioned this on a thread in the Non-Relationships forum, but I think a certain subset of members on this site have the attitude that "the OP is always wrong," no matter who the OP is or what he or she writes about. I'll add here that part of that is to try to cut down those who might say something positive about themselves.
Pay them no heed. If men are looking your way, striking up conversations with you, flirting with you, and asking you out, you're attractive. As long as you don't base your self-worth on your looks or men's response to them, you're gold.
Because oftentimes it's a superfluous and irrelevant detail. Used in the context it is often used in even "funny" or other positive adjectives to describe one's personality would also be unnecessary.
I know I'm attractive, but I don't need to disclose such when it isn't relevant to the matter at hand. However, I do make it a point to state that I'm awesome because it's something that should be known and shared regularly... because I'm awesome. [note the sarcasm]
You know what I find funny? Here she sits, moaning about people being upset that she describes herself as attractive. I remembered that she said she shows properties. I mean, it isn't like she's got an active thread that says she does , then, I say I find 3 of them attractive.........and it makes me a creep.
No, you misunderstood her, Magna. She was only saying that disclosing tmi online would be creepy.
How on earth could she consider YOU creepy? You's a niiiiiice boy!
Serious question. I created a thread where I simply said I am attractive and people jumped all over me. Do people assume you think you're better than them for saying your an attractive person? I just never understood the negative comments that follow when someone states this. It's ok to describe yourself as intelligent, funny, ambitious, whatever, but as soon as someone says they are attractive all hell breaks loose. I get that beauty is subjective , but i think that if a majority of people agree that you are good looking, it's pretty safe to say it's true. I don't get why it's ok for others to acknowledge but your supposed to pretend that you don't know. Even when someone compliments you, your supposed to act like no one else has ever mentioned it and play it off.
This is a tricky concept all together. There are people who get all nuts over "someone who is attractive but doesn't realize it."
There are a lot of reasons that people do what they do. I think it's too many to name. However, out of some reasoning, if you acknowledge where you stand, then some people may lash out.
It could be jealousy, bitterness, angry with their life because they don't have what you have and they want it.
Then they expect you to "love yourself" and have *blank* self esteem and self worth. This is one of those things where you are probably damned if you do, damned if you don't.
I look at it this way, acknowledge your qualities. I love a woman who realizes how attractive she is. Just as long that she doesn't think that she is better than anyone else.
As a matter of fact, I believe that attractive women need to understand that they are attractive due to the fact that it is actually a double edged sword. While attractive women do tend to get more attention, it is not necessarily a good thing.
Serious question. I created a thread where I simply said I am attractive and people jumped all over me. Do people assume you think you're better than them for saying your an attractive person? I just never understood the negative comments that follow when someone states this. It's ok to describe yourself as intelligent, funny, ambitious, whatever, but as soon as someone says they are attractive all hell breaks loose. I get that beauty is subjective , but i think that if a majority of people agree that you are good looking, it's pretty safe to say it's true. I don't get why it's ok for others to acknowledge but your supposed to pretend that you don't know. Even when someone compliments you, your supposed to act like no one else has ever mentioned it and play it off.
Well, if you are attractive that you are attractive but does not mean everyone will find you attractive also. Nothing wrong with self-compliment. Just remember, you aren't the only attractive female in the crowd.
Some of the most attractive people don't even know they are attractive, which is attractive in itself.
I don't really understand that, though.
I think when a person has an accurate and truthful assessment of him or herself, that can be attractive as well.
I've dealt with really attractive women who thought they were ugly as ----!!!
Get's Tiring.
Kinda like Katy Perry thinking she's Rosie O Donnell.
I myself have the case of being a tall person that doesn't know that he's tall. Can you imagine dealing with Shaquille O'Neal with a Napoleon complex. Kinda Weird. LOL!!! (Okay, I'm not 7' tall, but I'm not particularly short either.)
Also, if a person is "attractive", chances are, they know it, or have at least heard it.
I don't know, I'm in a goofy mode today.
Then there is the Uggo who thinks she's a hot princess.
Just as long as you don't think yourself as better, or more important than anyone else because of what Nature has given you.
PS. I personally do not consider myself good looking on a serious note. Sometimes I do joke about it, and I have had women approach me, ask me out, compliment me, etc.
...What's with the double post
Last edited by TJenkins602; 02-09-2014 at 02:28 PM..
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, then, I say I find 3 of them attractive.........and it makes me a creep.
