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Talk with him about getting a vasectomy. Should solve both of your problems.
"Getting a vasectomy is like a woman receiving a lifetime supply of birth control pills -- without the side effects.
A vasectomy is a simple procedure. Surgeons cut the vas deferens, which are the two tubes that transport sperm from the testicles to the penis. With these two quick slices, a man's semen is sperm-free, and he can enjoy permanent birth control.
Vasectomies are considered a permanent form of birth control, but some men do opt to reverse them. This is accomplished with a procedure known as a vasovasostomy".
Not a good plan since they apparently want to have children later down the line.
Thanks, but I do not want anything implanted into my uterus. Also, although the copper IUD is hormone free, it is not without side effects. A possible side effect is longer/heavier periods.
Nothing is "implanted" into anything, it is merely "inserted" there is a huge difference between the two procedures.
From all of the excuses you have come up with so far I think the best thing for you and your husband to do until you want to have children is to abstain from sex. That is the only non implanted, non side effect, non chance of getting pregnant before you are ready method that is 100% effective and safe.
For the IUD, she'd need to find a provider that will perform the procedure because the IUD is best for women who have given birth.
OP, if you're not too keen on hormones then your options are fertility awareness method and vaginal contraceptive film. Or, just opt for a hormonal BC that has a low dose of hormones. Weigh the pros and cons of each.
I would NOT rely on any type of fertility timing method! Women differ tremendously in their fertility. Some women can get pregnant at any time in their cycle. Women have been known to get pregnant even during their period. This isn't a reliable form of bc at all.
OP, it sounds like you two pretty much have the best method you can hope for, short of a reversible procedure for either one of you. If your husband is uncooperative re: using a condom on occasion, that says something about him as a person. The fact that he believes that you chose the diaphragm in order to deliberately "complicate" sex and birth control speaks volumes, imo. I'm sorry you're not with someone who's more supportive, cooperative, and easygoing.
WTF is wrong with you people who think the solution to her problem is to just suck it up and go on the pill?
OP, I have pretty much all the same problems with birth control that you do. I don't want an IUD becuase it would make my already bad periods worse and probably crampier, and if I get one and don't like it, I'd have to go back to the doctor to get it removed.
That said, I told my husband that I was going off the pill because I didn't like the hormonal effects (it makes me less horny, among other things) and he's fine with using condoms and withdrawal. Withdrawal is actually more effective than people give it credit for if done correctly. I am at a point in life where getting pregnant wouldn't be the end of the world, but I used it in my younger years as well. Perhaps you guys would be ok with using this instead of condoms when you're without your diaphragm?
My husband would never tell me that I should just suck it up and consume some chemical that is screwing with my body. He would never presume to make decisions for my body or my health. If you have looked into these birth control methods and decided they aren't for you, then he needs to respect that - a lot of women have made that decisions for reasons similar to yours. If he has decided that condoms aren't for him and he doesn't want to wait for you to put in your diaphragm, then maybe you guys just do "other things" on those nights instead. But he shouldn't be pressuring you into taking birth control pills because he can't be bothered to shoulder some of the responsibility, inconvenience, and discomfort of birth control.
WTF is wrong with you people who think the solution to her problem is to just suck it up and go on the pill?
OP, I have pretty much all the same problems with birth control that you do. I don't want an IUD becuase it would make my already bad periods worse and probably crampier, and if I get one and don't like it, I'd have to go back to the doctor to get it removed.
That said, I told my husband that I was going off the pill because I didn't like the hormonal effects (it makes me less horny, among other things) and he's fine with using condoms and withdrawal. Withdrawal is actually more effective than people give it credit for if done correctly. I am at a point in life where getting pregnant wouldn't be the end of the world, but I used it in my younger years as well. Perhaps you guys would be ok with using this instead of condoms when you're without your diaphragm?
My husband would never tell me that I should just suck it up and consume some chemical that is screwing with my body. He would never presume to make decisions for my body or my health. If you have looked into these birth control methods and decided they aren't for you, then he needs to respect that - a lot of women have made that decisions for reasons similar to yours. If he has decided that condoms aren't for him and he doesn't want to wait for you to put in your diaphragm, then maybe you guys just do "other things" on those nights instead. But he shouldn't be pressuring you into taking birth control pills because he can't be bothered to shoulder some of the responsibility, inconvenience, and discomfort of birth control.
It's not that the OP should necessarily go on the pill. It's just that with what she has ruled out, and what her husband is unhappy with, there really isn't much left in the way of reliable options. Someone is going to have to compromise.
People have been using natural forms of birth control forever. If that's the path you want to take, the old school whoops baby is the obvious consequence. So, if that's a risk you two are willing to take, then continue on the path.
It's not that the OP should necessarily go on the pill. It's just that with what she has ruled out, and what her husband is unhappy with, there really isn't much left in the way of reliable options. Someone is going to have to compromise.
She's already using a diaphragm. Either he can take a breather while she puts it in, or he can put on a condom. That is the compromise. I'm sure the OP would prefer if her husband just took care of the birth control so she wouldn't have to think about it or pollute her body and could just show up horny and ready to go. I know I would. But if that isn't realistic for her, why should he expect the same?
She's already using a diaphragm. Either he can take a breather while she puts it in, or he can put on a condom. That is the compromise. I'm sure the OP would prefer if her husband just took care of the birth control so she wouldn't have to think about it or pollute her body and could just show up horny and ready to go. I know I would. But if that isn't realistic for her, why should he expect the same?
Yeah, that was basically my point. I probably should have been clearer.
It's my understanding that circumcised men lose a lot of sensitive nerve endings after..."snip-snip." The natural gliding sensation that uncut men have is lost to cut men. Consequently, they aren't as sensitive down there and need more direct contact to achieve similar feeling.
Just a theory...not sure if it holds water.
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