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I'm going to die alone, and I have no problem with it. NO family, siblings, and kids can care less. I've been married and divorced twice, not really wanting marriage either time, much less any kids. You need to become comfortable with being alone, because it's really NOT that bad. Suck it up, it's reality.
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What about European women? They usually don't have a problem with dating a black man and also most of them are not religious at all.
Me and my husband met online too. He lived in Chicago and I in Amsterdam. I moved to the US and we are happily married for over 10 years now. Just an idea....
I'm similar to your situation. I'm just 30 and not atheist. It is harder for us black guys, but it comes in phases. I live in Arkansas and believe it or not, I can usually look at a woman and tell if she dates a black guy or not. There's differences though. There's women who exclusively date black guys and women who may have liked a black guy but it never went anywhere. In my area, the ones that exclusively date black guys are not my caliber. They are usually into dating the thuggish type guys, which is not what I am.
It's just a phase. I can see why you want to give up, because it's tiring to keep doing all the work with no reward. Also, just as women get older they become more fickle. You can see it here on the forums. There's more women on this forum that have dated a good amount of guys, compared to guys who have dated a good amount of women. Women get fed up too. We just either keep on trying, we give up, or change our approach and try something different. There's just not a lot open for us to do or any other guy. Our criteria is more narrow, but it's still feasible.
What about European women? They usually don't have a problem with dating a black man and also most of them are not religious at all.
Me and my husband met online too. He lived in Chicago and I in Amsterdam. I moved to the US and we are happily married for over 10 years now. Just an idea....
For the first time in my life, I'm convinced that I'm going to die alone. Here are the 6 reasons:
1. I rely solely on online dating, mainly because the women at my job are either married or too young (20's and 30's) or too old (late 50's, 60's). And I've never been a bar/nightclub guy. In fact, I get so annoyed when people say shyt like "Forget online dating; dating In Real Life is the way to go." No, it's not. If Real Life dating (i.e.- non-online) were really the way to go, online dating never would've been invented. Obviously, there was something broken about Real Life Dating, so someone said, "There's got to be a better way." Does online dating suck? Of course. But leaving online dating for Real Life Dating is like going back to typewriters just because computers can be a pain in the a$$ sometimes. As annoying as computers can be, they still offer way more advantages than typewriters.
2. I'm a single (never married), childfree, 41-year-old man looking for women aged 42-55 (in NY, NJ, and PA) and many of the women in that age group are married or divorced with children. Even though I prefer a childfree woman, I'm open to dating women who have either teenage or adult offspring...but that really doesn't matter, because of Reason # 3.
3. I'm black, and am attracted mainly to white women. And most of the white women in the age group I'm looking for (42 to 55) DO NOT want to date black men. Let me repeat that: most white women aged 42 to 55 DO NOT WANT TO DATE BLACK MEN. And if you don't believe me, check out the profiles of 40- and 50-something white women on Match.com: more than half of them prefer to date white men only and the few who are open to dating outside their race tend to prefer nearly every other minority group but black. And OKCupid isn't much better: more than half of the 40- and 50-something white women I'm looking for answer "Yes" to the question "Do you strongly prefer to date someone of your own skin color?"
I was going to say that I don't think women in their 30s are too young for you, but I guess you don't want them because of the whole childfree thing?
I'm guessing he is just less attracted to them. I'm rarely interested in dating someone younger, myself.
Well, since he's 41 and is setting his minimum age requirement at 42, I would think it has less to do with attraction (what's wrong with 37-41 year old women?) and more that he wants them to be unable to bear children or to be more likely to have only teenage or adult children.
Everyone dies alone. If you haven't learned that already, it's a good time to do so.
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