Gentlemen - Fancy restaurant for a first date? (dates, guys, family)
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I think it depends on the social and cultural context. Back home a nice dinner date was a given when taking a girl out, and the guy always paid. Here in SF, it's the opposite; doing that would probably turn off the woman and make you look like you're trying to throw money around to impress her. A coffee date is the most popular first date here as it's low investment and convenient.
.......... We've met and I already like him, so he doesn't need to impress me.
Maybe all it means is that he likes the restaurant and doesn't like to sit all by himself at the table while he waits for food.
You've already met. He already knows that he enjoys your company. So now he has a companion to sit and have a conversation with while he waits for his dinner to be cooked.
I think some guys like to do the nice restaurant thing to show off a bit. Unfortunately, if you are dating a lot, that can get expensive. I typically do drinks for a first date, but i have made exceptions to the rule if i really want to try out the restaurant, or if its a late date where she comes straight from work for example. But typically, i think its bad to set that precedence on the first date of a fancy restaurant.
I almost always go to a nice place for a first date. For one, I love eating good food and two, Ive never had a woman say she was dissapointed and would prefer KFC.
I recently went to three new restaurants (adds more spice with new) and read the reviews to be sure they were rated well. The several times historically I have done this I was not disappointed. I want to be sure the food is good, but I want my focus to be exclusively on this new person and seeing them in a different light. It should be open and airy so the conversation can flow. I will sit and chat for a few hours in that way. One of the dates got way serious over spirituality and was very deep and profound. The other date was memorable if only because I never had a date with someone where I laughed so much! The third was very pleasant, but the kiss I got in the parking lot certainly turned my head. A date from a while ago allowed us to hold hands and walk around afterwards - it just seemed very natural is a light way. Courtship is a lost art.
I had a first date with a guy who chartered a helicopter and flew us to dinner...in another city. So, yes, some guys go way out if their way to make an impression.
Just curious - Do you guys sometimes select the location of a first date with the hope of impressing your date? I have a date tomorrow night, a first date and he selected one of the fancier restaurants in town. I'm just happy to be going out so I gladly agreed!
Personally I like to keep things casual the first few dates. I feel like it makes it easier to get to know each other. We've met and I already like him, so he doesn't need to impress me.
I've done it a few times. No Idea what your question is though.
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