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Old 02-23-2014, 10:47 PM
 
Location: San Antonio, Texas
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....could you forgive them? Under what circumstances could it be forgivable, for you?
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Old 02-23-2014, 10:50 PM
 
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We're all human. Forgive and forget. I did.
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Old 02-23-2014, 10:51 PM
 
Location: Middle America
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Nope. Trust is gone, that's it. Shattered pieces of pottery aren't the same even if you can glue them back together.
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Old 02-23-2014, 10:52 PM
 
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To me, forgiveness benefits the one doing the forgiving much more than the one who committed the transgression. I would forgive. But I would also divorce him. I firmly believe in once a cheater, always a cheater. There are only 3 reasons I would ever divorce: Abuse, Addiction and Adultery. Any of those would be absolute show stoppers for me.
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Old 02-23-2014, 10:53 PM
 
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....could you forgive them? Under what circumstances could it be forgivable, for you?
Maybe if they were really drunk and it was a one off thing where they kissed somebody really quickly.

2nd degree cheating.

Anything like sex or a blowjob that takes time to think about and perform or like spending a year getting to know and fall for some other dude while they are supposed to be dating me is inexcusable.

And punishable by death!
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Old 02-23-2014, 10:54 PM
 
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To me, forgiveness benefits the one doing the forgiving much more than the one who committed the transgression. I would forgive. But I would also divorce him. I firmly believe in once a cheater, always a cheater. There are only 3 reasons I would ever divorce: Abuse, Addiction and Adultery. Any of those would be absolute show stoppers for me.
I think by forgive he meant remain with that person.
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Old 02-23-2014, 10:55 PM
 
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Forgive, yes.
Forget, no.

She has said she isn't the type of person who would do this in a relationship and I have taken her at her word. I could forgive her on the basis she is a human being and we make mistakes. I could never forget she put her needs above our family and went behind the backs of her loved ones.

Trust would be gone. Relationship over

I would move on in life without her as my partner. I ain't got no time for wishy washy people who don't know themselves and preach they are something they are not
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Old 02-23-2014, 10:56 PM
 
Location: Viña del Mar, Chile
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....could you forgive them? Under what circumstances could it be forgivable, for you?
never, no excuses whatsoever. I would not get over it.. too many babes out there to go through that crap
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Old 02-23-2014, 11:07 PM
 
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A breach of trust hurts, there's no denying that. But it's not the end of the world. Humans make poor decisions sometimes. "Mistake" is not just an excuse. It's a human characteristic. Trust can be rebuilt.
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Old 02-23-2014, 11:13 PM
 
Location: Middle America
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In some types of relationships, trust can be rebuilt, depending on the breach. But cheating in a romantic relationship? Nah. Not for me. That level of dishonesty and disloyalty indicates major character flaws.
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