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Ok heres the story: I meet girl a while back. She's great. We have chemistry, i dont escalate physically enough with her (too scared. put her on a pedestal) and then i get put in friendzone. We stay close talking a lot. Last summer she falls HARD for this other guy. He treats her really bad, doesnt appreciate her, makes fun of her, makes her cry etc. She tried to deny her feelings for him to me a long time but I finally got her to admit it. She tells me that everything in her knows the guys is terrible for her but she cant seem to let him go. He's all she want. Meanwhile she is always telling the guy how amazing he is and how he is all she needs.
Recently she called crying because he hurt her and that he is such a jerk to her. I begin to break it down to her how she is wasting her emotions on a guy who will never care the right way about her. I tell her its like giving precious jewels to someone and they throw them in the trash everytime. She seemed to listen to me and said Im 100% right and she needs to walk away. She said she doesnt think she can leave him and I told her that im pretty sure they have been very physical and that is the reason she cant let him go. She is a very modest girl so he got her to be physical and she is hooked on him now.
Anyway, it kind of kills me to be so deep in the friendzone with her but something in me wants to hang on and see her through this. I guess part of me wonders if she'll see what she has with me once she finally gets away from that jerk. I know its a bad place to be but its hard for me to just leave her and not talk to he anymore. I feel like I'll be the one who feels the loss more than her. Do you guys think i should just try to be there for her, to be more distant or should i just walk away completely?
thank you
Don't waste your time thinking you will be anything more than a friend when this dude dumps her.Find someone who wants to be with you. Sorry to be so harsh but just move on.
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