I need SERIOUS male Intuition here: Is he into me, bored, or shy??? (date, how to)

[MMorena]

I've been single for sometime now and am ready to date but not overtly anxious.

I'm a senior in college and I'm a RA, the other day I randomly received a message from a guy on facebook. He's an RA like me, so initially when he messaged me I assumed he was going to ask me to cover his shift. But instead, he just wanted to talk. He started off his facebook message saying, "long time no talk," which I thought was weird, because we honestly rarely talk.

My friend, however seems to think he's interested in me, but I'm not so sure; and a BIGreason for this is because he didn't give me the vibe that he was interested in talking to me. His responses weren't necessarily short, one word resplies, but they also didn't leave room for me to respond. His responses read more like conversation enders and I'm a talker, so no matter the format, I really try to be engaging in my conversations. But, I was trying to follow his lead because the whole message was just baffling to me, so throughout the message I couldn't help but keep telling myself to relax, he's not interested in you, he's going to ask you any minute now to cover his shift lol but he never did!

Because he wasn't really engaging, I got confused, and started keeping my responses short too. Well the last thing we spoke about was how I was scheduled to work all day for some event and he said "that's unfortunate. That's really really unfortunate. [sad face]" and from there, I interpreted it as him not being interested and that I was boring him, so I just responded with a "Yes. Yes it really was lol." Since then, (this was yesterday) he hasn't responded. And now, I'm wondering what was that!??

Does he like me, was he just bored and decided to message me (some random girl, he occasionally sees), or is he just shy and uncertain about if I may like him back?

maybe he just wants to get to know you...how is he supposed to know if he likes you if you rarely talk?

he probably thinks you're attractive and is moving on to the second stage of deciding whether to try it.

i'd say he's cautious.

or maybe just friendly.

women are good friends too, you know.

[Rance]

Ask HIM!

[MMorena]

So what should I do?

Should I message him on facebook?

If I do, what should I say without sounding completely aimless...especially since the conversation ended with the last thing I wrote...I know this isn't the best way to go about having a love life, but I've only been in one relationship and that was for 4 years and for all I know, he was the only guy to ever show an interest, so I'm really bad at this.

Thanks

you should...
turn off the laptop and go into the world and live.

[ellie]

Ask him if he wants to go get something to eat and TALK. You should pay.

It's sometimes hard for people who talk a lot to figure out what's going on with people who are quiet. Doesn't mean he's not interested.

Try to find a subject he's interested in and listen.

[jaypee]

Pass him a note:

[SD4020]

Don't ask us, ask him!

[Raena77]

He's an idiot and doesn't know how to talk to women. Don't take it too seriously some men just like to test the waters.

[smarterguy]

Grow up and ask him.