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Old 12-03-2007, 02:17 PM
 
Location: Heartland Florida
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Default Asexual relationships, is it possible?

Seems like a prerequisite for a relationship is an interest in sex. I have never been able to keep a girlfriend because eventually it ends in this subject and she becomes offended. I have no sex drive and never have, as for a relationship a friendship is fine, but when you befriend the opposite sex, others imply a sexual relationship. Does lack of interest in sex mean that you will live and die alone? I have always heard that most women hate sex, but have found that to be a lie.
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Old 12-03-2007, 02:20 PM
 
Location: Coachella Valley, California
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Newsflash - Most women ENJOY sex! A lot of us are even more hot-blooded than our men!!!

Maybe you just haven't found the right person for you. Keep looking because I believe there is someone for everyone.
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Old 12-03-2007, 02:21 PM
 
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I have known couples who did not engage in sex. They are happy to "not have to deal with that." I believe it is farily common, but somewhat closeted, because they don't want to be ridiculed. I think as long as you are open and up front about it when you are dating, that there are people who would be content with that type of relationship. I believe there "really is someone for everybody" no matter what your sexual preference or non-preference.
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Old 12-03-2007, 02:27 PM
 
Location: Miami, FL
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I think DiamondD is right. I know of people who are married and young and barely have sex. I'm sure there are many people out there that lack sex drive and yearn only or mostly for companionship.
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Old 12-03-2007, 02:28 PM
 
Location: I'm not lost, I'm exploring!
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I think DiamondD is right. I know of people who are married and young and barely have sex. I'm sure there are many people out there that lack sex drive and yearn only or mostly for companionship.
Wouldn't that fall under a friendship category then? or.. strictly platonic, as they call it?
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Old 12-03-2007, 02:34 PM
 
Location: Capitan, NM
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Although sex is not the most important part of a relationship, it is important and so is the handholding, hugging, etc. that leads to sex.

Otherwise, it's a friendship. Sex seals the deal.

Last edited by songinthewind7; 12-03-2007 at 02:34 PM.. Reason: Addition
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Old 12-03-2007, 02:38 PM
 
Location: Portland, Maine
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I know a woman from the get-go who never wanted to have sex period--with a man or other woman. She made it known to all. But, she did meet a man and they have been married for quite a few years without sex. Whatever floats your fancy. I am sure there is someone out there for you.
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Old 12-03-2007, 02:42 PM
 
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I could see this as being a very plausible argument for someone that was medically handicapped in that area, to abstein from having sex.
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Old 12-03-2007, 02:49 PM
 
Location: Virginia
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Newsflash - Most women ENJOY sex! A lot of us are even more hot-blooded than our men!!!

Maybe you just haven't found the right person for you. Keep looking because I believe there is someone for everyone.
Sounds to me like you glossed over the OP and didn't catch at all what he was saying his situation was.....
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Old 12-03-2007, 03:53 PM
 
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Wouldn't that fall under a friendship category then? or.. strictly platonic, as they call it?
No there is a difference. There is friendship, there is roommates, and there is also "lovers without sex." Which is just what it says, a depth of intimacy and companionship, and commitment to the relationship, without the sex. There is a difference between a friend, a best friend, and lovers without sex. If I have a long-term lover, say, and something happens he is no longer able to have sex, then I could see myself staying with him. I'm not with him just for the sex. But that is someone I already know and am committed to. I'm not sure I would choose it from the get-go. Different set of circumstances
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