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Just be yourself and the right woman will reveal herself to you.
Yes you can change and manipulate and act contrary to how you are...and you can even fool a woman you think you should be with into liking you because of it...
But it'll blow up in your face.
Be you and be happy being you and you'll win automitcally.
Just be yourself and the right woman will reveal herself to you.
Yes you can change and manipulate and act contrary to how you are...and you can even fool a woman you think you should be with into liking you because of it...
But it'll blow up in your face.
Be you and be happy being you and you'll win automitcally.
Um, that's kinda hard when you've just met. This time I had the invaluable benefit of some history shared by a mutual friend, which gave me insights into her needs and priorities.
True but I meant over time. Why was it invaluable?
Knowing how to please a woman emotionally is probably the most challenging skill for a man to master. It requires you to understand the indirect nature in which women communicate. Men are more bottom-line thinkers and would rather skip over the mysterious "guess what I'm thinking/feeling games." On the other hand, women want you to be able to read between the lines, determine what their needs are and be the man to fulfill those needs.
This can be very confusing unless you understand the needs which are most important to women: certainty and significance. How do you know these are the most important? Just pay attention to the advertising which is directed towards selling women products which "fulfill" their needs for security and for significance. Companies who write this stuff spend billions of dollars a year on research to determine what needs are most important to their buyers.
So when your woman expects you to anticipate your needs, always ask yourself if she is acting out of a need for certainty or a need for significance.
Knowing how to please a woman emotionally is probably the most challenging skill for a man to master. It requires you to understand the indirect nature in which women communicate. Men are more bottom-line thinkers and would rather skip over the mysterious "guess what I'm thinking/feeling games." On the other hand, women want you to be able to read between the lines, determine what their needs are and be the man to fulfill those needs.
This can be very confusing unless you understand the needs which are most important to women: certainty and significance. How do you know these are the most important? Just pay attention to the advertising which is directed towards selling women products which "fulfill" their needs for security and for significance. Companies who write this stuff spend billions of dollars a year on research to determine what needs are most important to their buyers.
So when your woman expects you to anticipate your needs, always ask yourself if she is acting out of a need for certainty or a need for significance.
Because telling a woman that you aren't a mind-reader and asking her to be direct in communicating her needs with you is so very difficult.
Applying what you have learned in "Men are From Mars, Women are From Venus"., John Gray.
Just the first 4 chapters even!!!!
Then applying what you read in maybe the first few chapters only of
"Getting The Love You Want", by Harville Hendricks.
Then, having the insight gained from the "The Five Love Languages" by Gary Chapman
That would all be less than 3 nightime readings....if you doze off...maybe 5....is it worth it?
OMG...apply 2 of the insights from these books and see the change in the responses you get!
Too many men poo-poo getting help or learning tricks to good relationship by
reading a book and have divorce after divorce...so go hide with a coffee in Barnes and Noble, shhh,
don't let anyone see you.
You WILL thank me.
Get the book his needs, her needs. Affair proof your marriage. It could help you.
Men are expected to be responsible for their own feelings and emotions.
I'm struggling to figure out why women can't do the same, being equal and all.
One of us is surely a sexist here, I'm just trying to figure out who it is.
You're using that brush a lot today? Should we get you a new one? Or is that a mans responsibility after painting so many broad strokes on subjects?
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