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I make a very good living, I'm financially stable. I LOVE living in Manhattan and getting to work in 10 minutes.
A couple of months ago I went on a date with this woman, date went well (or so I thought) and she was put off by the fact that I was 45 years old and had a roommate, this has happened a couple of times. "Oh, he's not stable." is most likely what they are thinking, and I can respect that, we move on.
At the time I met this one, a few days go by and I decided to give her a call to go see a movie and she told me "My man has his own place and is financially stable." Crude...but again..this is an important quality woman seek, and I respect that..and agree with it..I'm certainly not looking for a slacker myself. I was ready to explain myself, but didn't think it was worth it..I'd appear desperate which is an unattractive quality, so I wished her luck.
I moved here in May and have been able to save a SH*T load of money. I was originally looking for my own place, but this came up..and even I was against it at first, but great neighborhood, very nice building..and I'm in midtown in 10 minutes from walking out my door. I'm also never home, so being on wanting to focus on my business...it made sense...and it paid off.
I got to know the super well, he works hard, gave him some cash and a card as a thank you for the work he does on the building. He informed me of an apartment opening up a floor up from me at an amazing deal, I jumped all over it..I'm moving in in May.
Was showing pictures of the new place to the bartender, then "She" walks over, starts chatting it up with me, smiling saying I hope I invited her to the house warming and asked me why I didn't let her know? And what I was doing over the weekend. I just told her I didn't date from the pub anymore to prevent awkward moments if it didn't work out.
That's not why I didn't agree, and it ticked me off a little. YES, I let it get to me..I'm not perfect. But I was happy also at the time that she showed her true colors very early on, showing me she was judgmental.
Just ranting, hope I'm not breaking any forum rules...lol
I make a very good living, I'm financially stable. I LOVE living in Manhattan and getting to work in 10 minutes.
A couple of months ago I went on a date with this woman, date went well (or so I thought) and she was put off by the fact that I was 45 years old and had a roommate, this has happened a couple of times. "Oh, he's not stable." is most likely what they are thinking, and I can respect that, we move on.
At the time I met this one, a few days go by and I decided to give her a call to go see a movie and she told me "My man has his own place and is financially stable." Crude...but again..this is an important quality woman seek, and I respect that..and agree with it..I'm certainly not looking for a slacker myself. I was ready to explain myself, but didn't think it was worth it..I'd appear desperate which is an unattractive quality, so I wished her luck.
I moved here in May and have been able to save a SH*T load of money. I was originally looking for my own place, but this came up..and even I was against it at first, but great neighborhood, very nice building..and I'm in midtown in 10 minutes from walking out my door. I'm also never home, so being on wanting to focus on my business...it made sense...and it paid off.
I got to know the super well, he works hard, gave him some cash and a card as a thank you for the work he does on the building. He informed me of an apartment opening up a floor up from me at an amazing deal, I jumped all over it..I'm moving in in May.
Was showing pictures of the new place to the bartender, then "She" walks over, starts chatting it up with me, smiling saying I hope I invited her to the house warming and asked me why I didn't let her know? And what I was doing over the weekend. I just told her I didn't date from the pub anymore to prevent awkward moments if it didn't work out.
That's not why I didn't agree, and it ticked me off a little. YES, I let it get to me..I'm not perfect. But I was happy also at the time that she showed her true colors very early on, showing me she was judgmental.
Just ranting, hope I'm not breaking any forum rules...lol
As much as you hate hearing it, but having a roommate at your age is just not ideal. It doesn't have to do with being financial stable and wanting to save money, but it's just not a good look for us guys. As women age, and don't have a lot of baggage, they are really looking for their equal. They really are wanting their equal. I'm 30 and I have no desire to have a roommate. It's just not ideal for what I'm wanting to portray dating and the type of women I'm after.
If you're happy having a roommate then I say keep on keeping on. Just be prepared that it will lower your options on women, but that doesn't mean you won't find that woman who doesn't mind you having a roommate. It will undoubtedly be a bit harder to find them though.
Again I was ranting, It comes down to her asking me why I didn't tell her I was moving after nearly 6 months of no contact, and taking an interest in me now. As i said, I respected her decision..just put off by this move.
Meh. Just carry a copy of your W-2 on your date...if the issue of stability comes up and your date starts trying to make you feel like a goofus for having a roommate, just flash them digits and tell her you'll find someone else.
You have to be a millionaire to live without roommates in Manhattan.
It's her loss, not yours.
Move on!
That's what I was thinking too!
The biggest drawback I can see to dating a man with a roommate is the inability to spontaneously intimate. But that doesn't sounds like that is what this woman's hang-up was. You are better off without her.
Congrats on saving money OP and good luck with the new apartment!
I'm remembering the days when my boyfriend had an apartment. Sometimes we couldn't watch a movie because his roommates were there first, or they'd be using the main room. It was difficult to be alone. Hey, everybody, we're going back to the bedroom ... don't listen, okay?
It's not very fun.
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