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I met a guy from online.
On the 1st date, we met at a bar near his place.
I thought it was a great time. He seemed to enjoy meeting me, interested in me, asked me "how come are you single?" many times, talked about what we do next time.etc .
After we went back to his place and ended up having sex.
We weren't drunk, just lil buzz.
It was mutual and I haven't had sex for a while, I kinda wanted to.
Here are 3 things... I don't know if these could be a reason, he doesn't ask me 2nd date.
1: he didn't have a condom, we used one I had in my purse.
2: After sex, he tried to cuddle me a few times. I refused it.
I told him" I don't like to be cuddled when I want to go sleep. Cuddling makes me difficult to sleep. Can you move? I want a lil more space to sleep." He stopped it.
3: I couldn't sleep well, but he slept well. He kinda wanted to do it again, I told him to go buy condoms if we do it. He went to buy it.
He texted me next day (Monday to Friday everyday). I wanted to see him on weekend, so I asked if he has plan on weekend. He texted that sorry I'm at work on sat, and that was the last text from him. I texted him " miss you".
I haven't heard from him 4days. haven't seen him 10 days.
Im sooooo disappointed….
Did I do wrong?
If you give me an answer, plz tell that you are man/ woman.
Thank you..
This dude seems kinda sketchy, OP. He didn't have his own stash of condoms at home? And even after he came up short and you found one, he wanted to do it again without protection?
You dodged a bullet in more ways than one, missy. I wouldn't cry over that particular spilled milk, if I were you. Dude sounds like bad news. And he knew just what to say to gain your confidence and get you over to his place, too. I never ask a chick "how come you're single" when I first meet her. Don't fall for easy lines and fake instant infatuation.
Maybe he thought you were sending mixed messages? Heck, only he really knows. There's of course the high possibility he just wanted sex and nothing more.
However, I'd be turned off by the cuddling comment, though. I would more than likely lose interest after that.
By the question what did you do wrong, what were you hoping for? A 2nd date that ended up in the sack with you refusing his desire to be affectionate after sex?
Well for starters texting a guy "miss you" after a first date, not the best idea.
Meeting a guy at a bar and then going back to his place for a romp on the first date, sure fire way to guarantee either a ONS or just a FB situation.
As for the cuddling, yea guys are annoying like that but just do it to please and shut them up.
I met a guy from online.
On the 1st date, we met at a bar near his place.
I thought it was a great time. He seemed to enjoy meeting me, interested in me, asked me "how come are you single?" many times, talked about what we do next time.etc . After we went back to his place and ended up having sex.
We weren't drunk, just lil buzz.
It was mutual and I haven't had sex for a while, I kinda wanted to.
Here are 3 things... I don't know if these could be a reason, he doesn't ask me 2nd date.
1: he didn't have a condom, we used one I had in my purse.
2: After sex, he tried to cuddle me a few times. I refused it.
I told him" I don't like to be cuddled when I want to go sleep. Cuddling makes me difficult to sleep. Can you move? I want a lil more space to sleep." He stopped it.
3: I couldn't sleep well, but he slept well. He kinda wanted to do it again, I told him to go buy condoms if we do it. He went to buy it.
He texted me next day (Monday to Friday everyday). I wanted to see him on weekend, so I asked if he has plan on weekend. He texted that sorry I'm at work on sat, and that was the last text from him. I texted him " miss you".
I haven't heard from him 4days. haven't seen him 10 days.
Im sooooo disappointed….
Did I do wrong?
If you give me an answer, plz tell that you are man/ woman.
Thank you..
Do you really have to ask? Most(not all) guys are not going to want to seriously date women who gives it up on the first date. He probably just hit and quit it and moved on.
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Most(not all) guys are not going to want to seriously date women who gives it up on the first date. He probably just hit and quit it and moved on.
