Am new here and would like to say hello
And also wanted so advice please
I used to live in australia and after discussing this with my husband I decided that doing escorting would help us out a bit any way in that time he drunk a lot and often would hit me but only like hit me once either on the face or on my body, even before i did the escorting he it me but said that since he warned me that it was coming its not his fault and the reason why he hit me was because i was going on but i wasn't. Anyway i did the escorting to help us as a family out he claimed that he was okay with it but would drink a lot and often no matter what i said take out on me or our son.
I often went to the police but when it came to going through with a statement and stuff i changed my mind thinking that no one would believe me and say that it was all in my head.
Anyway this went on for a long time then one day my son started school which is a really big thing after my son had been there a month the school called me and said that when my son does his show and tell he tells the class what his daddy does to his mummy took out all her clothes and spread them over the floor and then hit my mummy.
Even when the school contacted my husband and myself he was drunk when he saw the head teacher they asked him if he hit his wife of course he said no. That nite he had another go at me punched me in the head about 30 times that nite i slept in my sons room all shaken and scared thinking that he does not mean it and its must be me.
Any way to cut a long story short my son and i decided to give him another chance and go traveling around australia with him it was in march of this year that this happened he took a knife a bread knife and slapped it on my rib cage showed my son who took a X ray but nothing was broken went to the police but i had no evidence nothing was broken all i had was the bruises and since i dobbed him in to the police b4 when we were in london i could not go through with it again.
Anyway still with him 4 weeks ago he had a bit too much too drink and there was a lot of verbal abuse and mental and emotional abuse he punched me so hard that it left a bruise i took pictures this time and hide them some where safe.
Now i have left our room i sleep with my son or on the sofa i leave for good with my son in january.
But the things that gets me is that he keeps saying that i should stay and work through the problems i did that before when he claimed that he did not have a drinking problem when he drinks now he drinks every other day but heavy like a bottle of wine and a bottle of spirts.
I am thinking a bout giving him another chance but at the same time i know things will never change and that my son and i deserve better he has even punched my son in the face for not knowing the time.
Am not escorting now only did it for 18months back in 2005
Do guys like that change? do they ever stop blaming there partners and take responsiblity?
Any advice would be great sorry that its so long