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Originally Posted by cosmic_girl
My friend found out Four days ago that his wife was having a sexual affair with her boss. It has been going on for months. He has not confronted his wife about it until now. He hasn't talked about the affair with anyone else but me. His reason for this is he wants to protect the reputation or image of his wife to friends and family because he wants to save the marriage. I don't personally know his wife so he felt safe to talk to it about me. He has given me the details of the affair and I felt disgusted about it. I am amazed at how he can act normal with his wife, knowing what she did behind his back. He has no plans of leaving his wife even if she repeats the affair. He just wishes he would be numb when that happens again. The wife also had a pregnancy scare from the affair and still he was not sure if he would have left her if that happened 
A few days ago he told me that his wife allowed him to hug her in bed and he felt like crying. Is this how a husband would normally react? I got feedback from my other thread that he could be codependent on his wife? He did tell me that his world revolves around his wife and he does talk about her all the time. He put her on a pedestal like she is a perfect person. He also blames himself for the affair (maybe he is boring or not earning enough)
Is it common for men to forgive the first time? I always thought that women are more forgiving of affairs more than men and it's rare for wives to cheat?
I am keeping my distance from my friend now but I do hope he makes the right decision. |
Tell him go seek-out professional help, you don't needs this in your life.... You said it yourself, you don't know (her) ....
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