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While I firmly believe no one is perfect or even near perfect, and that's alright, but I do believe in finding/having the person that is perfect for me.
There's no such thing as the perfect person for you. There's also no such thing as Santa Claus or the tooth fairy or (probably), God.
There's no such thing as the perfect person for you. There's also no such thing as Santa Claus or the tooth fairy or (probably), God.
I don't think you're understanding, by "perfect" I don't mean the individual itself is perfect, rather, they're "right" for me, and since I don't require or expect perfection, that individual need only be what I deem compatible. However, I recognize what I deem compatible, what I desire, makes me very selective.
I don't think you're understanding, by "perfect" I don't mean the individual itself is perfect, rather, they're "right" for me, and since I don't require or expect perfection, that individual need only be what I deem compatible. However, I recognize what I deem compatible, what I desire, makes me very selective.
I understood what you meant. That person doesn't exist either and is a figment of your imagination. That's the point the video was making.
I wouldn't say I look for perfection either. The last year of dating for me I met a lot of women that I just wasn't that compatible with. For the 2-3 that I had some interest in getting to know, they didn't feel the same way about me. Sometimes you are just in a situation where no matter how hard you try, you continue to end up with the same result. Compatibility is a lot harder than I thought it would be. Sometimes I even wonder if I have a hard time dating, because subconsciously, I rather be alone. That's something we could all discuss on.
I know the point of the video, and while I understand it, I simply do not agree with the entirety of it.
Ultimately the question of "settling" comes down to our personalities.
Suppose that you relocate to a new area, and are searching for a house. No house is "perfect", but how important is it to find a house that's ideally suited to one's tastes? Is it better to live in an apartment for several months, while searching for the ideal house? Or is it better to buy something that's reasonably suitable, even if it's missing some desirable features?
Suppose that you're looking for artwork to decorate that house. Certain colors, patterns, subjects and so forth are of particular appeal. But the ideal piece of art hasn't appeared on the market. Is it better to stare at an empty wall, waiting interminably for that ideal piece to show up? Or is it better to buy something that's more or less OK, more or less interesting, without its necessarily being one's absolute favorite?
It's the fundamental bird in the hand vs. two in the bush. But there's one more complication: we're talking about life-partners here, real humans, and not inanimate objects. Our potential partners are also evaluating us. That person might be perfect for me, but am I perfect for her? Maybe all of the persons who appeal most to me, are of such persuasion that I don't appeal most to them? Should I then eschew entirely the possibility of committed romantic relation? Or should I accede to a compromise solution, where my partner isn't my first choice, and I'm not her first choice?
It's a question of personalities. My personality says to accept the suboptimal, lest a holding out for better options only leaves us ultimately with something worse.
Jesus H. Christ, listen to the @#$% thing. He talks about his relationship.
Seriously, can people not spare 5 minutes??? Talk about short attention spans!!
hahaha "must spread Reputation around before giving it to RogersParkGuy again"......
I was gonna SAY! Anyway, this is a brilliant share, Rogers, great job.
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