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Eh. Worn out subject that already has a thread that is exactly like this one on the first page, and I've already put my opinions on several other threads similar.
Eh. Worn out subject that already has a thread that is exactly like this one on the first page, and I've already put my opinions on several other threads similar.
lol! Froggie's getting bored with all the re-runs. And Zennie, sharp as always (gotta stay sharp to cut through the crap!), called the OP on some BS.
Dating has become a power struggle now. It isn't fun anymore.
How is it a power struggle? This could be a topic for its own thread. I'm really curious to hear this. You mean the kind of power struggle one new poster started a thread about, where she got sick after a couple of drinks, and her date tried to grope her (everywhere!), and yelled that she was being unreasonable when she ran away to her car?
How is it a power struggle? This could be a topic for its own thread. I'm really curious to hear this. You mean the kind of power struggle one new poster started a thread about, where she got sick after a couple of drinks, and her date tried to grope her (everywhere!), and yelled that she was being unreasonable when she ran away to her car?
What kind of power struggle?
I think what he might be referring to is the amount of game playing that goes on nowadays, which is correlated with power struggling to supposedly maintain some sort of an advantage. Happens mostly on the women side, but some guys fall into this as well.
I'm 23, and sometimes wonder if dating was this convoluted and complicated decades ago. Technology progressing so much has a lot to do with it as well I would think.
I think what he might be referring is the amount of game playing that goes on nowadays, which is correlated with power struggling to supposedly maintain some sort of advantage. Happens mostly on the women side, but some guys as well fall into this.
I'm 23, and sometimes wonder if dating was this convoluted and complicated decades ago.
You mean, where people pretend to be just hanging out, and don't want to admit it's a date? Back in the day, hanging out really was just hanging out. It involved a group. Getting together as two people was a date, no matter the activity or lack thereof.
A "power struggle". Well, he has my sympathy. It's supposed to be fun, assuming you get along with your date.
You mean, where people pretend to be just hanging out, and don't want to admit it's a date? Back in the day, hanging out really was just hanging out. It involved a group. Getting together as two people was a date, no matter the activity or lack thereof.
A "power struggle". Well, he has my sympathy. It's supposed to be fun, assuming you get along with your date.
I edited my post, but do you think technology has a lot to do with it nowadays? Back then, you had no cell phone (no text, e-mail, etc), no online dating or internet, etc. If you were interested in a girl, you had to ask her for her home number, and then actually CALLING HER to ask her out if you were really interested.
Sometimes I wish I grew up in the 70's/80's just to see how it was back then, I tell my Mother this constantly. I love technology, and while it's definitely been a positive in many ways, it has also been detrimental in other ways.
You mean, where people pretend to be just hanging out, and don't want to admit it's a date? Back in the day, hanging out really was just hanging out. It involved a group. Getting together as two people was a date, no matter the activity or lack thereof.
A "power struggle". Well, he has my sympathy. It's supposed to be fun, assuming you get along with your date.
So true. I made a post yesterday, in reference to the friendzone, that dating never used to be so ambiguous. If someone asked you out, and you weren't interested, it ended there. You didn't settle for being friends as an alternative, when one of you wanted more.
I find that much simpler than now, where people want to hang out and be non-committal, or linger around, hoping and wishing for the attention of someone who has already told you they'd not interested in dating you.
I edited my post, but do you think technology has a lot to do with it nowadays? Back then, you had no cell phone (no text, e-mail, etc), no online dating or internet, etc. If you were interested in a girl, you had to ask her for her home number, and then actually CALLING HER to ask her out if you were really interested.
Sometimes I wish I grew up in the 70's/80's just to see how it was back then, I tell my Mother this constantly. I love technology, and while it's definitely been a positive in many ways, it has also been detrimental in other ways.
I hate that I'm at the age now that when I started dating in 1987 is now the olden days. . But seeing how things are now, it was much simpler and straightforward than what I read on here. You weren't focused on the irrelevant minutiae of everyday life via FB updates and Twitter feeds. Life didn't go at the warp-speed it does now thanks to technology, texting, etc., where if you send a message and they don't reply immediately you instantly have anxiety over what that means. You dated, but it didn't go on 24/7 because you didn't have that kind of contact. You had conversations in person or on the phone, nothing to hide behind. My high school boyfriend was 2 years older so we didn't share classes but we'd write notes and pass them to each other in the hall during class changes. It was something to look forward to, whereas now everyone is "out there" all the time, just a click away.
That's how it is for most men. They're either used for free attention(women sending out signals of interest only to shut down the man because they wanted attention, not the man) or they're used for dating - dates paid for, or they're looking for someone to settle down with.
I hate to admit that the bold section is true, but I had it happen to me. I had been talking with a lady that had lost a good amount of weight and was back on the dating scene. She sent out a mass text to some guys to gauge what everyone was doing. She later on told me that she sent it, because she was wanting to make out and wanted to see which guys were available. The women that are seeking attention really do exist. For every woman seeking attention, there's a man willing to pump and dump. There's this lack of accountability that is starting to exist with dating. I see a lot of victims in my area who just don't want to admit that they messed up.
I still talk to this lady here and there and the same thing remains the same. She understands that the text message she sent was wrong, but she doesn't understand that actions like that come with repercussions. She still says that she's sweet and is sorry she made that mistake; however, gets overly frustrated when things don't go her way dating. She continues to have the idea that since she lost all this weight, men will flock and fall at her feet. She's missing out on the idea that she has to have something to offer men as well. Her current living and financial situation is really only going to attract the type of men she's trying to avoid. Her and I have talked about this a lot and she's very impatient and hates waiting on the right man. Her emotions are really hot and cold with dating, because she has a lot of expectations. It's not that her expectations are unrealistic, but she needs to put herself more on par with the type of man she wants/needs.
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. But seeing how things are now, it was much simpler and straightforward than what I read on here. You weren't focused on the irrelevant minutiae of everyday life via FB updates and Twitter feeds. Life didn't go at the warp-speed it does now thanks to technology, texting, etc., where if you send a message and they don't reply immediately you instantly have anxiety over what that means. You dated, but it didn't go on 24/7 because you didn't have that kind of contact. You had conversations in person or on the phone, nothing to hide behind. My high school boyfriend was 2 years older so we didn't share classes but we'd write notes and pass them to each other in the hall during class changes. It was something to look forward to, whereas now everyone is "out there" all the time, just a click away.
