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I do it all the time. I meet a lot of people that way, but never met anyone lasting (friend or boyfriend). For example, I might go to a movie alone and meet a guy standing in line to watch the same movie and I will talk to him, maybe sit with him, etc, etc... but always, after the movie we've gone our separate ways.
I've heard that it's easier for guys to approach a woman alone... it's less intimidating as they are only facing one woman, not standing before a "committee" of girlfriends.
As for friends, others mentioned Meetup.com groups. That's the best way I found to make new friends. It can be hit or miss though. It took me a few groups before I found one I fit in well. But I did find one.
Anyway, short answer... it's easy to go out alone... and kind of fun. But don't forget safety 101 that all women have to do. When I go out alone, I don't drink at all. Also, I am more aware of my surroundings and such and take extra precautions (for example, I park in well trafficked areas). I also always tell someone I am going out and will call when I get back. I have a relative that doesn't mind that I do this.
OP, are you gonna be one of those girls who sits by herself all night and then gets mad when no one comes up to?
You know.. he has a point. Sometimes it does happen where go out alone and don't meet up with anyone--you have an off night. You need to take the initiative if you want to meet people I think. But also, don't take it personally if you don't meet anyone. Just try to enjoy yourself and your own company.
OP, are you gonna be one of those girls who sits by herself all night and then gets mad when no one comes up to?
No, I am ok with going out alone, so it doesn't really matter. I love to explore different restaurants and when someone isn't available, I will check them out myself for a quick bite. I don't sit there for 5 hours alone. I am usually in and out in 1.5-2 hours max. I usually get approached though. Some just turned out to be fun to talk to for an hour and that was that, and that's fine too. I am just looking to broaden my horizons. Maybe I will try a meetup event too once it's warmer in this polar ice cap called NY.
I think it is awesome that you have the courage to go out alone.
My friends are all married and just stay home, I am mid 30's also.
I went to single meetup groups and met undateable, desperate guys (don't ask) and nice, great women there. We looked around and all had a horrified look in our eyes. Then we looked at each other, laughend and sat together, having a girls night.
We decided that you need a partner in crime and now we go out together. I have also found quality women to hang out with on craigslist - but you need alot of patience here, lots of weirdos and flakes you have to weed through.
Too bad you live on the other side of the US, you would totally fit to our little group.
Aaaw, thanks.....I feel warm and fuzzy inside. Luckily, it is normal to go out alone in NYC. I just do after work things and nothing too late, as I feel too many drinks can cause a problem.
I got dragged to one of those singles events too and it reeked of desperation. It was sad. And I tried on- line dating a few years ago and it was awful....way too many picky men who had no right to be picky, and so many serial daters. I looked recently and saw some of the same people from 5 years ago still on the site. Not my cup of tea. I enjoy going out and being social.
I'm glad you found some pals to go out with. I still have a few left myself.
I'm not single, but I go out/travel alone. I went out for dinner last night, sitting at a bar alone because my SO was working and I needed to unwind.
If anyone else finds that odd.....uh, so?
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