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And yet popularity and social status is rewarded. Blame society.
So being fun to be around (popular) is rewarded...... that's kinda a no-brainer. Do companies want to hire, and people want to be around/date, other people who are enjoyable company? Yes. Do you think that should be different?
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I can never tell if Asian or south American woman are hitting on me or that is how there culture is. They will be very friendly and very touchy feely .
I can never tell if Asian or south American woman are hitting on me or that is how there culture is. They will be very friendly and very touchy feely .
It's part cultural, but I wouldn't complain about it. Makes it all the easier.
I am wondering what types of signals do girls usually give out? I am a girl and I thought I used to be good at giving out signal and have good games. However, since I just got out of a long term relationship, I found myself much less reluctant to give out signals to people I am very attracted to.
How can I work on this and what girls often do that are acceptable - like still classy but not chasing the guys too much?
Woman usually give out signals with their body language and behavior both intentionally and unintentionally. Women who like a guy usually make a lot of eye contact with guys they like, they tend to play with their hair (like stroking, twirling, or flipping it, while holding it and staring at it is a sign of disinterest), leaning in while they guy talks, lots of smiles (usually the either the really wide smile or the suppressed grin), laughing at most of the stuff he says (even when it isn't very funny), complimenting him often, and so on.
You can always give guys hints by dropping that you are single if you know they are single. You can ask them questions about themselves and say stuff like, "You are really interesting and sound like a person I'd like to get to know" or if they tell you about something they do you can suggest that you might be interested in doing it with them. That way you can give out a hint while still being classy and avoid pursuing them.
Although some men are incredible dense (Yo!) and don't pick up on this type of thing either due to inexperience or poor social skills or lack of confidence or shyness. I usually pick up when a woman likes another man, but I often miss out on it when a woman is flirting with me unless it is really obvious. This has to do to my desire not to be either the creepy guy or the smug douchebag who both assume that any woman who is friendly to him desperately wants to have sex with him, so I tend to miss it unless it is incredibly blatant.
Haha, my break up was almost 7 months, it was late august. So I guess saying "just got out of" LTR is wrong.
I don't think any girl trying to be friend with a guy is considered to be interested in that guy though. If you are nice in a straightforward way, not like flirting - then it is clear. I have made lots of guy friends this way lol.
But back to the topic, I haven't been flirting with anyone for years and I feel like I am out of my game. When I talk to him, what are the ways to make him know I am interested. And what are the signs to know he is reciprocating?
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Originally Posted by Wmsn4Life
Forget games.
The safest signals are smiling and eye contact. Also, saying "hi" is pretty straightforward.
as a guy who's always gotten along with women, here's what I see:
eye contact, usually paired with a smirk/smile. Their eyes are kind of smiling as well if that makes any sense.
They get inside my personal space bubble.
I see a lot of playing with hair in my vicinity, but that could just be a habit of theirs and not related. I only read into that if there are other things going on as well.
Laughing at anything I say that resembles comedy.
Lingering close by and making eye contact (before we know each other or if we've only briefly interacted before). I've found women rarely straight up approach and go after you, they hang out in your vicinity like land-mines and wait for you to step on them. There are always exceptions though.
They will touch you whenever the opportunity arises to do so without coming off as "slutty" or forward, some women more than others.
Some will be a little nervous, they are usually pretty good at hiding it but you can still tell. These women are usually more stuck in their head, micro-managing everything a little too much and it shows. I find it endearing though, I like more shy/reserved/introverted women. These women can come off initially as cold and not at all interested, but that's just their attempt to cover up where they're really at internally.
They start interviewing you, asking questions about you. Fishing to see if you've got a girlfriend, where you live, what your up to over the weekend, etc. They try to make it really easy for stuff to happen between the two of you, will give you opportunities, even though they usually won't come right out and be forward about it(society has taught them that's no good).
I'm sure I'm missing some, when they come to mind I'll add them.
as a guy who's always gotten along with women, here's what I see:
eye contact, usually paired with a smirk/smile. Their eyes are kind of smiling as well if that makes any sense.
They get inside my personal space bubble.
I see a lot of playing with hair in my vicinity, but that could just be a habit of theirs and not related. I only read into that if there are other things going on as well.
Laughing at anything I say that resembles comedy.
Lingering close by and making eye contact (before we know each other or if we've only briefly interacted before). I've found women rarely straight up approach and go after you, they hang out in your vicinity like land-mines and wait for you to step on them. There are always exceptions though.
They will touch you whenever the opportunity arises to do so without coming off as "slutty" or forward, some women more than others.
Some will be a little nervous, they are usually pretty good at hiding it but you can still tell. These women are usually more stuck in their head, micro-managing everything a little too much and it shows. I find it endearing though, I like more shy/reserved/introverted women. These women can come off initially as cold and not at all interested, but that's just their attempt to cover up where they're really at internally.
They start interviewing you, asking questions about you. Fishing to see if you've got a girlfriend, where you live, what your up to over the weekend, etc. They try to make it really easy for stuff to happen between the two of you, will give you opportunities, even though they usually won't come right out and be forward about it(society has taught them that's no good).
I'm sure I'm missing some, when they come to mind I'll add them.
You are so far ahead of most men. You're particularly perceptive about shy/introverted women.
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