what are red flags for you when dating? (woman, hubby, friendship)

[McGowdog]

Newly dating, she comes over to my apartment (for the first time, I think) and cooks me this three course meal and it was awesome!

Good so far, right?

In the middle of dinner, my phone rings. It's for her! She seems slightly embarassed, but takes the call. When she hangs up she says, "I've got to ask you something. You can say 'no' and I'll understand. But my friend is moving to Aspen and wanted to know if I'd/we'd like to rent her cabin in the mountains."

We'd only been dating for about two weeks.

I won't go into what my decision was. But suffice to say, this was a red flag.

[Rcm58]

I'd be like, no but I think you should consider it, next thing you know it would be like the lady in Play Misty For Me, I love you I love You with the knife plunging in your pillow...too funny McGowdog...lol

[GASunshine]

Originally Posted by nicolepsy

how about the ole discreet attempt to scratch their "pants area"!

Oh yes, the old scratch and adjust while contemplating the ceiling as if he's thinking "oooh, nice paint color" instead of "ah, still intact." What, it's going to run away?

[McGowdog]

Originally Posted by Rcm58

I'd be like, no but I think you should consider it, next thing you know it would be like the lady in Play Misty For Me, I love you I love You with the knife plunging in your pillow...too funny McGowdog...lol

Unfortunately, that's the way it turned out! She was even a redhead! And I looked just like Clint!

[Rcm58]

I know this guy you women would drool over, Even as a guy I know hes a looker, hes single does have an ex and a daughter and I find him truley amusing, hes into Karate and WWF stuff, I've sat at his place and seen him jump up and go OMG hes really hurt, while watching the world wrestling federation, and I think hes joking but oh no hes not. When I leave his place I usually have tears in my eyes from laughing so hard. After his 3rd or 4th DUI he bought a moped to drive to work and he got so PO'd that it was slow that he stood up on it one day and kicked the front wheel, got his foot caught in the spokes and fliped it, showed up bleeding at work, I was on the floor laughing. This guy is a hoot.

[Marylandkitten]

Originally Posted by McGowdog

Newly dating, she comes over to my apartment (for the first time, I think) and cooks me this three course meal and it was awesome!

Good so far, right?

In the middle of dinner, my phone rings. It's for her! She seems slightly embarassed, but takes the call. When she hangs up she says, "I've got to ask you something. You can say 'no' and I'll understand. But my friend is moving to Aspen and wanted to know if I'd/we'd like to rent her cabin in the mountains."

We'd only been dating for about two weeks.

I won't go into what my decision was. But suffice to say, this was a red flag.

I don't get it... she wanted to share the place with you permenantly? Or just, offer the possibility of a nice mini-vacation getaway?

(maybe I'm way off, but that sounds nice!) how long had you 2 been dating? trying to understand why this is a red flag.

[nicolepsy]

sounds dreamy!

Originally Posted by Rcm58

I know this guy you women would drool over, Even as a guy I know hes a looker, hes single does have an ex and a daughter and I find him truley amusing, hes into Karate and WWF stuff, I've sat at his place and seen him jump up and go OMG hes really hurt, while watching the world wrestling federation, and I think hes joking but oh no hes not. When I leave his place I usually have tears in my eyes from laughing so hard. After his 3rd or 4th DUI he bought a moped to drive to work and he got so PO'd that it was slow that he stood up on it one day and kicked the front wheel, got his foot caught in the spokes and fliped it, showed up bleeding at work, I was on the floor laughing. This guy is a hoot.

[Rcm58]

I have friends that I wouldn't wish on anyone but hes a good laugh and he looks good till he speaks...lol
Dreamy....your killing me

[GASunshine]

Originally Posted by Rcm58

he looks good till he speaks

I have this non-English speaking friend . . . could it be a match?

Yente.

[Marlow]

I see a guy at the grocery store where I shop. He's very handsome and put together looking, but I've seen him with at least 3 women looking all domestic and like they're cooking dinner together. Sometimes he has a pre-teen kid along. His daughter? Anyway, I've wanted to tell the googly-eyed women he's with, "Honey, he's already been there and done that."