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I never felt the draw to the FWB relationship thing, specifically because I always viewed it to be an open arrangement wherein the friendship also allowed for a little horizontal sports...
If you want exclusivity, why not hold out for someone you actually want to be with for a long time and love?
"If you want exclusivity, why not hold out for someone"
Because you may end up waiting 20 years and still end up alone. There are many situations where and fwb relationship really makes sense. I would rather have a fwb than being alone for a long period of time. It may be someone who you get along with great but you could never live with them.
The fwb term was not nearly so common at the time but I would say that several relationships I have had would fit that description.
I voted that I would not be ok with it, because I was trained to be not ok with it. This was based on most of my experiences ending up being 1 sided; The other party not seeing others and I was, even though the initial agreement was to see others. I believe this is quite common.
So, my expectation ended up being that the other party was exclusive even though we discussed non-exclusivity up front. The one time where I was seeing someone that was seeing others I was fine with it because it was an equitable, honest situation, discussed up front.
Im a female and would not be ok with it. However, ive recently realized Im really into my FWB and dont want him to be just a FWB anymore. :/
This is exactly why I don't do FWBs. I can't sleep with someone multiple times without getting attached, and the chance of converting an FWB into a committed relationship is very, very low --after all, your FWB is already getting companionship, intimacy and sex from you so why would he commit?
Good luck to you, I don't envy your position and the likely outcome.
I won't answer the poll because I am not into FWB situations either. Although I ended up in one (mistaken expectations--I thought we had a relationship he did not. It ended because of that).
But coming from a different point of view, if I found out a man I was dating was in a FWB situation and having sex with her... it would be over. Call it what you like, but in my book that's cheating. I've been cheated on before and refuse to tolerate it ever again.
I've always wanted a geunuine loving relationship with someone, and to commit to her exclusively, fully and 100% -- and so a FWB would not work for me, and I have thus never been interested in having one...
I've never had one either. I am in an open relationship but I do not think that counts as a FWB because it involves distance. Besides, she is more than that to me.
I may be open to it and if I was my vote is I wouldn't care as long as it's not out of hand (ONS, etc).
I consider myself to be fairly open-minded.
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. I believe this is quite common. 
