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Last Sunday I went on a date with a man (A). On paper, he's everything a woman in her mid-twenties seeking a serious relationship would want. He's 24, successful (PhD candidate), charming, classy, polite, well-read, loves to travel, open to new cultures, smart, funny, objectively good-looking, sweet. The date lasted two hours with a few awkward silences here and there. We had a good conversation and it was a bit fun, but I asked myself a couple of times "when is he going to suggest leaving". I was on the fence the entire time.
I'm not sure I'm physically attracted to him, but maybe physical attraction might grow on me. The problem is we are too much alike. Same taste in everything, same way of thinking, same ambitions, same culture, same values, same preppy mentality. He doesn't bring anything spicy and I find it quite boring. The scenario is too "mature", too "uptight" for some reason. I'm very luke warm at the moment. Part of me wants to let go and part of me doesn't. I can't picture myself marrying the guy. Mind you, during the date I even had a moment where I thought I'd for sure cheat on him if I were to date him (not good, I had never even thought about cheating).
Now, the week before, we ended things with another man I'm still hung up on (D). D is the polar opposite of A. He's 24 and a college drop-out who works as a bartender at this hole in the wall bar. He doesn't have his life together, clearly. However, he and I have our fair share of common points and differences (mainly movies and diet) which I like. I felt an instant spark with him. He's fun, insane, and has some swag. The vibe was so goofy and fun. Our dates lasted 8 hours and there were no awkward silences at all. The conversation was just flowing, and we'd tease each other like kids. The physical attraction was sizzling. He was a bit immature though.
I used to be so into D, day dream about him and I (you know the drill, warm fuzzies and all), but he didn't treat me properly. A told me he was not looking for a hookup at all. But I barely think of him, unless I check my phone and see his name.
Hence when I compare these two men, I'm confused as to what to do withA. A asked me out on a second date (next Sunday) and I'm not sure if I should cancel. I'm very much confused and I need some advice.
Last Sunday I went on a date with a man (A). On paper, he's everything a woman in her mid-twenties seeking a serious relationship would want. He's 24, successful (PhD), charming, classy, polite, well-read, loves to travel, open to new cultures, smart, funny, objectively good-looking, sweet.
Thanks!
What does he have his PhD in? Cause unless he was a child prodigy its about impossible to earn a Phd by that age. I can't think of a way to do that.
You went on 1 date with a guy and you already thinking that you'll cheat on him?
It doesn't really sound like you are at the same maturity level as "A." Most girls that go for bad boys have some issues that they need to sort out before they are ready for a good guy.
I love how Bachelor #2 is a "bad boy" because he's a waiter.
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