Why is shyness looked down upon in the dating world? (guys, love)
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I would agree with this. I had a date where we were walking towards the restaurant hostess, and as we got close, he slowed down to let me go ahead of him...I finally realized he wanted ME to approach the hostess and ask for a table.
Shy people are generally not a blast to spend time with. I want to enjoy life, and want to be with people that enjoy life, engage with people, etc... hard to be like that if you're shy or timid.
I understand this attitude, but in general, it's kind of like, no matter who you are, you are the boring loser to somebody.
If somebody is kind of shy and not that exciting, I'll still try and share my life with them if I feel they will be a good, decent loyal friend.
Sometimes exciting people are very fleeting and undependable.
If somebody is kind of shy and not that exciting, I'll still try and share my life with them if I feel they will be a good, decent loyal friend.
Sometimes exciting people are very fleeting and undependable.
Also true. I had a ton of those in my life in my twenties. It didn't matter much back then, but now it definitely does. As with everything else in my life, I like balance. I don't get along with super shy people, but I also can't relate to the energizer bunnies who bounce from one thing to another and can never have a meaningful conversation.
I have some shy friends. I just don't want a shy partner.
The thing is, everybody has a different definition of shy.
Can you hop on a plane, go to a city you've never been to, hit the bar scene there alone, engage in conversation with a strange group of people and make new friends that night that to bar hop with?
Not to mention a lot will depend on your looks and social skills to be able to pull that off. Not just your courage. A courageous man (or even woman) who lacks that stuff will be looked upon as creepy.
I mean, sometimes read posts about what people want and what they don't want (shyness, sexual prowess) and it just makes me upset that life is this nonstop competition.
The thing is, everybody has a different definition of shy.
Can you hop on a plane, go to a city you've never been to, hit the bar scene there alone, engage in conversation with a strange group of people and make new friends that night that to bar hop with?
Not to mention a lot will depend on your looks and social skills to be able to pull that off. Not just your courage. A courageous man (or even woman) who lacks that stuff will be looked upon as creepy.
I mean, sometimes read posts about what people want and what they don't want (shyness, sexual prowess) and it just makes me upset that life is this nonstop competition.
I don't bar hop -- not because I'm shy. I'm really not attracted to men who pick up women in bars for ONS or anyplace else actually.
Self absorption isn't limited to only shy people. Extroverts can be self absorbed as well. A former friend whom women threw themselves at became completely self absorbed with his own greatness. To the extent where he became arrogant and full of himself. Also a nasty attitude. I found both him, and the women who found this attractive, disgusting in equal measure.
I have some shy friends. I just don't want a shy partner.
You want a man who will stand up for himself and you. Completely understandable.
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