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I did on-line dating once. The experiences were mixed. Most did genuinely want a strong relationship and not just sex. I doubt anyone does it for sex. Women were weary and wanted to know that I did not have lots of baggage and was solvent I put in a picture I though was good - we see ourselves differently than other people as we only see frontal looks of ourselves in mirrors most of the time. WE also see ourselves being much younger than what we are. Most said my picture was unflattering. One attractive lady in a pristine trouser suit, who was waiting for me under a big clock, when I approached her and said her name, looked at me and said "wow I never thought you would look like this". Her picture was also unflattering towards her. She was expecting a pretty unattractive man to meet her. So, get someone else to view your picture, preferably of the opposite sex. Get one taken wearing formal nice clothes. No baseball caps, t-shirts, etc.
The photo is important as it is the first draw. I like tall slim women and the photos don't usually show that.
Oh there are people on there who just want sex, trust me.
Oh there are people on there who just want sex, trust me.
I noticed a lot of the fat chicks on the dating site I frequented were pretty desperate for hook ups. I'm a mid 30's virgin but still not desperate enough.
perhaps not "a thousand a day", but an attractive woman in a major city getting 100 messages in a week is realistic.
and 95 of those messages are from creeps and losers. I went on a date with a girl and had her pull up an account once and she said she hadnt logged in for a week.. she had 150 messages waiting
perhaps not "a thousand a day", but an attractive woman in a major city getting 100 messages in a week is realistic.
It depends on many factors. But there's an average number of profile views. So if the number of profile views doesn't line up with the messages received then it stands to reason that some exaggerated amount is not the actual amount.
On OKC in their forums members talked about their average profile views per week, and even for attractive women it averaged around 130-140 per week. On one occasion I logged on and saw the accumulated 600+ Likes or quick match, but this was calculated over a period of about a month or so.
This last time it said 300+ over a period of a couple weeks. These weren't people who may have viewed my profile. They just saw me in the "locals" section and swiped my photo "yes."
Average number of profile views per week was 150. I certainly wasn't getting dozens upon dozens of messages per day, but then my profile required decent reading skills.
Now, that was with OKC. It was different with PoF, but still not "hundreds or thousands a day or week."
It depends on many factors. But there's an average number of profile views. So if the number of profile views doesn't line up with the messages received then it stands to reason that some exaggerated amount is not the actual amount.
i'm not sure what you mean. obviously men (on average) send a great deal more messages than women, regardless of profile views.
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On OKC in their forums members talked about their average profile views per week, and even for attractive women it averaged around 130-140 per week. On one occasion I logged on and saw the accumulated 600+ Likes or quick match, but this was calculated over a period of about a month or so.
This last time it said 300+ over a period of a couple weeks. These weren't people who may have viewed my profile. They just saw me in the "locals" section and swiped my photo "yes."
Average number of profile views per week was 150. I certainly wasn't getting dozens upon dozens of messages per day, but then my profile required decent reading skills.
Now, that was with OKC.
well, i'm saying that attractive women in large cities can get 100 messages/week
not that all women in all cities will always get at least 100/week
you think 95% of men online are creeps and losers?
that's.... harsh.
i mean sometimes i feel like 95% of women on okcupid are losers, but i give them the benefit of the doubt , because communication is vague online.
NOT 95% of men online are creeps and losers; 95% of the messages to women come from creeps and losers. Seems plausible to me that creeps and losers might be more likely than others to scatter a lot of messages around.
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I put in a picture I though was good - we see ourselves differently than other people as we only see frontal looks of ourselves in mirrors most of the time. WE also see ourselves being much younger than what we are. Most said my picture was unflattering. One attractive lady in a pristine trouser suit, who was waiting for me under a big clock, when I approached her and said her name, looked at me and said "wow I never thought you would look like this". Her picture was also unflattering towards her. She was expecting a pretty unattractive man to meet her. So, get someone else to view your picture, preferably of the opposite sex. Get one taken wearing formal nice clothes. No baseball caps, t-shirts, etc.
