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Old 03-25-2014, 01:54 AM
 
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I'm just curious what women have to say about this. I'm not too interested in hearing what other guys think to be honest.

Beyond the basics of being an available heterosexual male in your age group who puts reasonable effort into their appearance and isn't a jackass what sort of things go a long way in getting your interest?

I'm sure some of this is personal, I am well aware of that, I'd still like to hear what you have to say.
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Old 03-25-2014, 02:09 AM
 
Location: CA
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- Compatible values, goals, beliefs, and lifestyles
- Shared interests and tastes, more compatible than identical
- Healthy self-esteem
- Social skills. This doesn't mean an outgoing charmer necessarily. "Social" more in the broad sense of interpersonal relations than the party/leisure sense. So this doesn't exclude regular old shyness, which many function ok with.
- Respects women as fellow humans, internally
- Some drive and passion in life
- Functions as an adult, ie, supports himself financially
- Physically attractive to the woman in question; different kinds of "average" guys will have appeal to different women
- The X factor known as chemistry, often having to do with personalities clicking, building rapport, and connecting emotionally

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Ok, I realized you may be seeking a more personal response.
For me:
- physically attractive to me. Ideally this means taller than me, lean body, cute face. I've certainly dated homelier though.
- shared faith and spirituality, moral, honest, lots of integrity
- shared goals and lifestyle: doesn't want kids or to do the typical 9-5. Wants to travel and maybe do humanitarian work. This is ideal...not expected.
- extremely intelligent. Intellectual and well-read scores big with me
- likes music, especially indie/college rock; likes art and culture in general
- OPEN: likes to do and try new things, is very open to foreign cultures, will entertain wacky ideas and theories for fun, not uptight while still keeping his morality
- more outgoing, organized, decisive and focused than me. I admire these things because I'm weak there
- emotional depth. Not afraid of emotion. More sensitive TO others than being touchy himself.
- affectionate, sensual, exudes some passion and excitement
- makes me feel beautiful, admired, liked and desirable

Even just one of those in addition to the base you've described might make me pause and consider a man.

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Old 03-25-2014, 01:02 PM
 
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Orangeapple has covered the topic so thoroughly that I can think of nothing to add!

Choosing a partner is like choosing a best friend. Besides being a decent person, they have to be the right person for me.
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Old 03-25-2014, 01:05 PM
 
Location: Scottsdale, AZ
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Get ready for a long list, OP. Lol
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Old 03-25-2014, 01:10 PM
 
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First there needs to be an attraction for both parties. After that a sense of humor that meshes. An ability to have fun together and laugh. Not just the fun stuff like dates, but the day-to-day grind like running errands and grocery shopping. Then similar views on things like child raising, finances, religion, etc.

For me, I like someone well traveled, someone with an open mind to other cultures, food, and entertainment. I like someone well read in history. I like someone who has a passion for something, a hobby or an interest.
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Old 03-25-2014, 04:49 PM
 
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Beyond the basics what sort of things to do women want in a man?

Yes.
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Old 03-25-2014, 04:53 PM
 
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Orangeapple has it covered. She saved the rest of us a lot of effort, lol!
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Old 03-25-2014, 04:57 PM
 
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He must make over 150k/year, and drive a Ferrari. He should pay for all our dates as well. He needs to be an 8/10, have a six pack, and age like fine wine.
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Old 03-25-2014, 04:57 PM
 
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Shouldn't the question be "what sort of man does a women want in her?"
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Old 03-25-2014, 08:07 PM
 
Location: Pa
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You know Noah from Notebook?
Well don't be like him in his younger years wasting time.
Be like him in his older years never leaving her side.
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