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I can understand the people saying it is tacky to ask. That's why I asked the question here, to get your opinion.
However, to call me selfish or controlling because I didn't want to pay for a movie ticket seems a bit harsh. I hate the movies, haven't been there in 10 years. I find it to be a waste of money and I don't even like 300.. or any movies currently out. I pay for all dates, treat her well and always ask what she'd like to do. It's not like I'm some sort of inconsiderate guy who will only do what I want to and when I want to.
Hell it's not like the movie is the only thing we were going to do tonight. I'd end up paying for everything else, which would still cost more than a stupid movie.
I can understand the people saying it is tacky to ask. That's why I asked the question here, to get your opinion.
However, to call me selfish or controlling because I didn't want to pay for a movie ticket seems a bit harsh. I hate the movies, haven't been there in 10 years. I find it to be a waste of money and I don't even like 300.. or any movies currently out. I pay for all dates, treat her well and always ask what she'd like to do. It's not like I'm some sort of inconsiderate guy who will only do what I want to and when I want to.
What's tacky is inviting someone to go do something and then expecting them to pay for you. Meaning, your GF is the tacky one in this case.
I can understand the people saying it is tacky to ask. That's why I asked the question here, to get your opinion.
However, to call me selfish or controlling because I didn't want to pay for a movie ticket seems a bit harsh. I hate the movies, haven't been there in 10 years. I find it to be a waste of money and I don't even like 300.. or any movies currently out. I pay for all dates, treat her well and always ask what she'd like to do. It's not like I'm some sort of inconsiderate guy who will only do what I want to and when I want to.
Not saying you're inconsiderate, but it sounds like you'll only PAY if it's something YOU want to do.
That is about control. You pay for "all" dates, but suddenly you want to know if you should ask a HER to pay.
Also, if you haven't been to a theatre in 10 years, why would she even ask you to do that still? Eternal optimist?
I can understand the people saying it is tacky to ask. That's why I asked the question here, to get your opinion.
However, to call me selfish or controlling because I didn't want to pay for a movie ticket seems a bit harsh. I hate the movies, haven't been there in 10 years. I find it to be a waste of money and I don't even like 300.. or any movies currently out. I pay for all dates, treat her well and always ask what she'd like to do. It's not like I'm some sort of inconsiderate guy who will only do what I want to and when I want to.
Hell it's not like the movie is the only thing we were going to do tonight. I'd end up paying for everything else, which would still cost more than a stupid movie.
I don't see it that way, but you were inadvertently testing her. And she failed didn't she?
Her demanding him to pay for it or they won't go at all sends the message that she's more than willing to spend his money on things she wants to do and value whether he wants to go or not, so what he wants isn't as important to her as his wallet. If it's really about seeing the movie, she'll arrange to see it with girlfriends. But then, of course, she'd have to pay her own way.
I must have missed the part where he claims she "demanded" he take her to the movies and pay
I can understand the people saying it is tacky to ask. That's why I asked the question here, to get your opinion.
However, to call me selfish or controlling because I didn't want to pay for a movie ticket seems a bit harsh. I hate the movies, haven't been there in 10 years. I find it to be a waste of money and I don't even like 300.. or any movies currently out. I pay for all dates, treat her well and always ask what she'd like to do. It's not like I'm some sort of inconsiderate guy who will only do what I want to and when I want to.
Hell it's not like the movie is the only thing we were going to do tonight. I'd end up paying for everything else, which would still cost more than a stupid movie.
Soo... if you said "I don't really like going to the theater to see movies, but if you're buying the tickets, I'll go with you"... I see no issue with this. It's not rude.
You have told her you do not like going to the movie theater, and you do take her other places and you're obviously not cheap or tight with your money.
I would only see an issue with this if you were constantly counting every dime to make sure you didn't spend more on her than she spent on you. Which, it is clear, you do not do.
You're good.
If you feel like it confused her, explain that you don't really care to pay for stuff that you really don't like to do, but you wanted to try to meet her halfway.
She will understand this.
No worries.
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