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He actually is a stay at home dad now with some consulting work on the side. I have no idea why he couldn't keep a job, as I never asked him. He does something with computers.
It sounds like his life has worked out perfectly for him. He couldn't hold down a regular job, but he's enjoying being a SAHD, plus doing part-time work on the side. Congrats to him! He's lucky he had friends to set him up with someone compatible.
I have plenty of girlfriends who have never dated much or had a serious relationship and they are in their thirties. One was very attractive, but she gave off this "don't mess with me" vibe. She always wondered how I got dates and she stayed home. I basically would talk to people, lots of people. I would smile and act interested in them. I even asked guys out casually. I would say, hey do you want to get lunch at such and such place?
I find that odd you wrote 'plenty' of girlfriends who never dated or never had a serious relationship and now are in their thirties. Would you consider most of them unattractive? Shy? Too picky? I say odd in the sense it's plenty as opposed to a few.
I only know a very select few who never dated or had a serious relationship. Unfortunately it was mainly due to their lack of looks.
I do have sympathy for kind unattractive women. They really have it tough in the dating world.
no the reasonyou do not make it can be determined by a cat. if the cat runs from you its the same stuff that make women run from you. once you figure that out you will have to lock yourself in the bathroom to get away from women.
I find that odd you wrote 'plenty' of girlfriends who never dated or never had a serious relationship and now are in their thirties. Would you consider most of them unattractive? Shy? Too picky? I say odd in the sense it's plenty as opposed to a few.
I only know a very select few who never dated or had a serious relationship. Unfortunately it was mainly due to their lack of looks.
I do have sympathy for kind unattractive women. They really have it tough in the dating world.
I am a teacher and have worked with hundreds of women through the years. So I come into contact with a lot of women. There is a subset of teachers who devote themselves to their careers and stay single, for various reasons.
Some are very attractive, but introverted, shy, or very religious. Some are unattractive or have really ugly personalities. A couple of them are Asian and still live at home with their families and are not allowed to date without their parents approval.
So out of the hundreds of women I know, I am talking about maybe 15 at the most.i exaggerated by using the word plenty.
There's asymmetry however that asymmetry doesn't really hold relevance to me in being unsuccessful with the opposite gender as again I find that depends on the definition of success.
No different than there's a glaring asymmetry in that likely a guy's options are all/mostly those he considers attractive as he did the approaching while a gal's options even if she does approach those she considers attractive are likely mostly those she doesn't consider attractive as generally she was approached by whoever wanted her. Yet that glaring asymmetry doesn't really hold relevance to being unsuccessful as I find that depends on the definition of success.
I think of success as finding someone you are attracted to and they are attracted to you and you have a romantic relationship of any length of time. It's about finding a connection with someone.
Trying is talking with people of the opposite sex and being open to dating a wider range of candidates.
The people I know who are over thirty, alone, and virgins of both sexes are that way because they limit themselves. They want some dream or fantasy that has no basis in reality.
One girl said she could never date someone like my husband because he was balding a bit after 40. I am not a blunt person, but I flat out told her...you would not date a smart,handsome, nice guy because of a few missing hairs?
The men I went to college with, who are over 40 and still single are looking for the same type of girl they liked in college. That's fine if you want to be alone or date sparingly at best. Women who would be perfect for them are brushed to the side because of age, being divorced, having a child, or not being successful enough or too successful. They always ask to be fixed up with young single teachers I work with, but they are picking the beautiful 23 year old popular type girls. Those girls don't want to date men twice their age unless they are rich and look like george Clooney.
One of the happiest couples I know were two longtime singles who got married after age 35. The guy was so nice and sweet. He had trouble getting and keeping a job and lived with his parents. He was probably a 4 or 5 in terms of attractiveness. We set him up with a longtime single teacher who was about the same in terms of attractiveness. He treated her like she was the most beautiful person alive, he is so happy to have her and she returns that feeling. They are married with two kids now.
No you cut off the sentence. The sentence is "while a gal's options even if she does approach those she considers attractive are likely mostly those she doesn't consider attractive as generally she was approached by whoever wanted her"
That's not a contradiction. Perhaps you're unaware that gals generally get approached by guys whether they want him or not? So even if a gal also approaches guys she wants it's reasonable that likely most of her options will be unwanted.
In other words: Gals options = (guys who approach her most are unwanted) > (guys she approach that she wants)
No you cut off the sentence. The sentence is "while a gal's options even if she does approach those she considers attractive are likely mostly those she doesn't consider attractive as generally she was approached by whoever wanted her"
That's not a contradiction. Perhaps you're unaware that gals generally get approached by guys whether they want him or not? So even if a gal also approaches guys she wants it's reasonable that likely most of her options will be unwanted.
In other words: Gals options = (guys who approach her most are unwanted) > (guys she approach that she wants)
Seems less like a slight on my writing and more on your seemingly being so emotional on your agenda you leap for any inkling of an error.
If anything it was a period I missed not commas as I combined two complete sentences- one about guys and one about gals. Since the gal's sentence was the latter it's a bit telling that you still seemingly missed the end of the sentence I italicized. Perhaps you were too focused on notion of gals approaching guys and trying to nitpick/find some error in such?
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