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Because if it gets serious, at some point you're going to be the new daddy.
That might be good for betas, but for alphas, we don't feel like raising someone else's spawn.
I've "dated" single moms before, but never anything past casual.
Do you really believe there are betas and alphas?
I think it's just something that people who believe they are "alphas" tell themselves to justify being less than gentlemanly and something that they like to call guys they see as "betas" to try to make them feel emasculated.
In any event, men who don't want to help a woman raise her kids if things get serious should surely not be dating single mothers.
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Single Moms need love too and don't expect for you to pay our way, we're strong and independent because we have to be. I just don't understand why some or most men hate dating a single mom especially if she is attractive. I don't get it.
Raising another mans children isn't for every man.
It makes it even more difficult when the children have a real relationship with their real father. Then you're kind of in the "moms boyfriend" stage, where the kids don't respect you.
You bring her and them to have a night at your house, and if you try to enforce rules that upset the kids, now the mom gets upset with you. while she isn't going back to their real father, it makes the relationship difficult on multiple levels.
Blackbirds son has a relationship with his real dad. He stays with him, for 7 days, every other week. So I basically don't watch her son at all. Now her daughter, from another man, wants me to be her dad, but because she was with dumbass for 3 years with her son, he pressed for step parents rights, and gets her every week he has his son. This does a real number on her mentality, because she loves the way I treat her and raise her, then she goes over there and stays up till midnight on school nights and eats nothing but grilled cheese sandwiches all week.
Courts don't care, she tried to change this for the welfare of the children, they simply don't care. In their mind, he is their dad, and there isn't anything she or I can do about it, regardless of how he treats the kids. We've taken pictures of how dirty they are, even took a video of her 4 year old trying to poop and balling his eyes out from eating so much damned cheese. Courts just don't give two ****s. He lives in a 30 ft camper by a lake in an RV park, we live in a 6 bedroom, 3000 sq ft, house in the best school district in my area, the courts just don't care.
This is just my drama, I have to contend with dating a single mother. Even if we get married, which we have discussed, I still wouldn't be the normal, everyday guy they are with all the time. Its ridiculous.
so when you wonder why a guy may not want to venture into these waters, there are MAJOR reasons why.
Single Moms need love too and don't expect for you to pay our way, we're strong and independent because we have to be. I just don't understand why some or most men hate dating a single mom especially if she is attractive. I don't get it.
Why is this a men thing? You see plenty of women expressing this idea as well. I'm guessing they don't want to date anyone with kids since they don't have kids and want to be able to go out whenever they want. Why should this surprise anyone.
I think it's just something that people who believe they are "alphas" tell themselves to justify being less than gentlemanly and something that they like to call guys they see as "betas" to try to make them feel emasculated.
In any event, men who don't want to help a woman raise her kids if things get serious should surely not be dating single mothers.
Are there men that tend to date multiple women, have more sex partners, be a more dominant type of personality? Are there then men who beg for sex from their frigid wives, men who tend to be weak minded and of little will power?
I'm dating a single Mom of 1 now, and we make it work, but I agree that scheduling and priorities are more critical to our dating life.
However, i'm a single dad of 1 as well, and our kids are the same age. So I'm also at the point in my life, where sitting at a bar at 2AM is not where I need to be, but rather going apple picking with our kids is.
Believe it or not, I am enjoying the play dates, and spending hours talking about our kids with her. This situation works for us, better than I initially thought.
Being single and not dating single moms does not equate to "bar scrub."
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