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Old 03-29-2014, 05:10 PM
 
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Should a woman ever contact a man she's dating. Let's say, you met the person and went out a couple times. He normally initiates contact but you don't hear from him for a few days. Should you call/text? Or just assume he' doesn't want to talk to you?

I unusually mirror a mans communication with me. I'll respond to messages, answer calls but in the beginning stages I never call or text first. Usually because I feel like they aren't contacting me for a reason.

What say you?

Should the contacting be solely on the man?
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Old 03-29-2014, 05:11 PM
 
Location: Katonah, NY
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Why wouldn't you? If he's into you - chances are he'll be happy to hear from you. If he's not into you - does it really matter?
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Old 03-29-2014, 05:13 PM
 
Location: Pa
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Contact him when you want to. Most like the fact that you think they are hot.
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Old 03-29-2014, 05:15 PM
 
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The infamous book "The Rules" says no, never. If you want to know why, read it.
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Old 03-29-2014, 05:16 PM
 
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Should a woman ever contact a man she's dating. Let's say, you met the person and went out a couple times. He normally initiates contact but you don't hear from him for a few days. Should you call/text? Or just assume he' doesn't want to talk to you?

I unusually mirror a mans communication with me. I'll respond to messages, answer calls but in the beginning stages I never call or text first. Usually because I feel like they aren't contacting me for a reason.

What say you?

Should the contacting be solely on the man?
Behavior such as this will usually award that woman my lost interest in her. Quickly.
I, as a man, am a human being. If I take time out of my day to conversate, show interest, date, and entertain a woman, I feel she if interested, should do all of that as well.

call me crazy.

You better be really friggen hot to be pulling this bs, cause simply, it is pretty much bs, and even if you are really attractive on the outside, it is poor dating behavior, and you probably need some work on the inside.
I am guessing right now you are ! "What a jerk!"
But really, I'm just telling it how it really is.
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Old 03-29-2014, 05:19 PM
 
Location: Scottsdale, AZ
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The infamous book "The Rules" says no, never. If you want to know why, read it.
concisely, please tell me why, srjth? I don't like reading relationship books
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Old 03-29-2014, 05:21 PM
 
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Should a woman ever contact a man she's dating. Let's say, you met the person and went out a couple times. He normally initiates contact but you don't hear from him for a few days. Should you call/text? Or just assume he' doesn't want to talk to you?

I unusually mirror a mans communication with me. I'll respond to messages, answer calls but in the beginning stages I never call or text first. Usually because I feel like they aren't contacting me for a reason.

What say you?

Should the contacting be solely on the man?

Sure a woman could contact a man.

What kind of question is that?

No offense.

I think that if a woman is interested and enjoys being with her man she would take time to contact him, unless she is going through something...


Then again, looking at the bold...


You can at least contact him and leave a message. He could also do the same. That would be sad for both parties to feel like the bolded.



Contacting does not have to be solely on the man. As a matter of fact, a man would appreciate the woman that he is dating contacting him.
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Old 03-29-2014, 05:22 PM
 
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concisely, please tell me why, srjth? I don't like reading relationship books
Give me a minute. My Kindle software is out of date.
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Old 03-29-2014, 05:27 PM
 
Location: The Puget Sound
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Should the contacting be solely on the man?
No.

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Old 03-29-2014, 05:27 PM
 
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No, a lady should never contact a man. It is very forward and he might think she is improper...

Oh wait, I'm sorry - for a moment I was channeling a society lady from the 19th century. DOH! Silly me.


OF COURSE you should contact him if you want to talk to him. The fact that you haven't heard from him suggests that he may think you are indifferent to him since you never initiate contact.

SMH.
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