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If I fit your criteria, I really don't think anything about it. It can be lonely at times, but most of the time I am just going about living my life. I stated in another thread, right now I am pretty happy. My life couldn't be much better. Sometimes I think I want a man in my life to share it with (and a real, meaningful relationship with a man would be a bonus). But it is what it is.
Sometimes I think that more women can just accept that there are going to be dry spells of weeks, months, even years when you don't meet anyone you're remotely interested in dating or you don't feel like putting yourself out there. You've got your friends, your family, your hobbies, your job, and you just get on with your life. A lot of the guys (on this board, at least) seem to get most resentful that once they're sexually active there isn't always a steady stream of sex coming their way rather than just accepting that everything ebbs and flows.
This has been on my mind for a very long time but until recently I was unable to verbalize it coherently.
By rarely, I'm thinking of, say, about once in a good decade and not at all in other decades.
What would you think, how would you feel if you were in this position?
Many men deal with this difficulty over entire lifetimes; as far as I'm aware, I've never known a woman in this boat.
Those women do exist, just like some men have this difficulty. I've had elderly aunts, cousins, friends and classmates who have all had little to no success with men.
Why do men think this issue is only limited to one gender?
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If a woman is sexless its her choice. She either chooses a sexless man or chooses not to sleep with local guys. If she absolutely wanted sex there are no women who would have a hard time with that
As long as you meant to speak of attractive women, rather than all women, yes I agree. That's what seems to be missing from the responses. Attractive women who could have anyone they want are acting as if choosing to be without companionship is the same as feeling the need for romantic companionship and being unable to find it.
Attractive people replying on this thread: trust me, you have no idea what you're talking about.
I feel the need for romantic companionship, and I have found people
whom I would like to share a relationship with, but none are interested. This is profoundly different from someone who could easily get romantic companionship if they wanted it.
Anyone unable to attract others has issues he/she needs professional help with.
This help could come come from a life coach, a therapist, a charm school, a psychiatrist, a matchmaker etc.
We each get one life to live - ONE. And it is up to every individual to make the most of his/her life.
When you have a problem you can't solve yourself it is just a huge waste of time to sit around moaning and groaning about it.
SEEK PROFESSIONAL HELP and move forward in your life
Want to add, to some of you it seems as though the rest of the world is living some kind of charmed life
But NO ONE on this earth is without some kind of problem, deficit or longing for something they don't have.
Stop wasting your time and energy on whining or bemoaning what you feel you lack in life and do what other successful people do - change things up and make something happen.
Want to add, to some of you it seems as though the rest of the world is living some kind of charmed life
But NO ONE on this earth is without some kind of problem, deficit or longing for something they don't have.
Stop wasting your time and energy on whining or bemoaning what you feel you lack in life and do what other successful people do - change things up and make something happen.
My experience, IRL too, not just online, is that women tend to assume it's perfectly normal to have dry spells that last years, maybe even 10 years, and each man tends to assume that he is the only man who goes years without sex.
If I had a problem attracting men, and I wanted to date somebody, I would date women or other-gendered people. They are cool, and often are attracted to different traits. If I couldn't attract anyone, I would work on making a happy life for myself without a mate -- both for my own enjoyment, and because it makes a person more attractive.
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