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I agree with othe posters in that I would touch base to make sure he got hom okay. But then let him make the next move. And by all means, don't let this man move in until you've spent way more time together and agreed upon terms in which he'd "contribute" more than being handsome to the relationship and household. Most people want to be "in love" before they decide to move in since it's usually a test run up to marriage, if if it's a couple years away. Before that, it's just to have sex on demand, free rent, or a discounted relocation.
I know someone that met a man at work.. The guy is cute.. and from what I saw, he looks flirty. I didn't want to say anything to my friend.. she's over weight and was very excited to have him interested in her. I was actually very happy for her and hoped what I saw was innocent..
I ran into her the other day.. he moved in with her a few months ago.. still no sex.. Looks like he is not contributing to the bills because he has child support obligations.. she's now supporting him from what I gather.
While it's possible the guy you met online isn't like this.. one never knows, sometimes until it's too late. My poor friend may now be stuck with a guy that isn't romantically interested in her and is mooching. I'll know more next time I see her, she couldn't talk because I had my kid with me.
Take it slow...
This is what I mean about caution, while women are looking for a relationship there are probably more men looking for this situation (not all). This is simular to what happened to my sister in-law, the guy claimed to be a buisness man who did a lot of traveling, turned out he was a bum who took advantage of women, once he showed up he was broke and she couldn't get rid of him, me and my brother in-laws sent him packing with a few bruises turned out he had warrents on him for assult. One of my wifes co-workers went out with a guy she met on line, he drove 200 miles to meet her, he wasn't even close to being who he claimed and began stalking her. I think these relationships can work out but i think you are taking a big risk, it's so easy to make someone believe you are something your not on line compaired to face to face.
Someone said to do a background check and as much as I find that distastefull I would have to agree it would be a smart idea in one of these situations.
I believe in the possibility of meeting a great person on line. However, to go out with someone you met two days prior on line? Having conversations about moving? Making out with someone you've known for two days and the first time you've met him in person? SLOW DOWN!!!!!!!!!!!
I think I answered this one yesterday but the thing with long distance stuff does not work out.........most of the time. Usually it will end up with someone having to relocate to be with the other, and in a matter of time its not as pretty as they made you envision you to see it as. You may not agree with even the little things such as climate. Wages. the type of home she/he has. Hobbies. Distance away from one party's family. Holiday issues. Other trivial issues. Again, there may be cases where its great, but there are more failures than sucess stories on long distance relationships.
You met online and two days later he traveled 400-600 miles to meet you and talked about moving in? Am I understanding that right?
And despite this wonderful, passionate date with talk about your future together, you're not sure when/whether to contact him again?
Please, please, slow down and show some good sense. If your sister or best friend described this situation to you, what would you say? "Oh yeah, he sounds like a great guy" or "This is way too weird for you to get involved in" ?
Long distance relationships are not for the weak of heart. They take so much trust and money to sustain not to mention all those lonely nights when you can't see each other. My advise would be chalk it up to a new experience and remain penpals,only.
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turned out he had warrents on him for assult. One of my wifes co-workers went out with a guy she met on line, he drove 200 miles to meet her, he wasn't even close to being who he claimed and began stalking her. I think these relationships can work out but i think you are taking a big risk, it's so easy to make someone believe you are something your not on line compaired to face to face.
