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LOL.. yeah, I guess that didn't come across well. I apologize. I was trying to say the activities I find fun are usually dominated by men and typically thought of as "guy activities."
I once asked my therapist at the time to please tell me how to learn to stop wanting to be loved. It's a terrible burden to desire something you can never have. He laughed. I got angry because he laughed, and he got serious and said what I asked for was not possible. He said it's human nature to desire to be loved by another, and even though we can learn to be alone, there will always be a part of us that yearns for love. He is right. Even though I've for the most part accepted that I will die unloved, there is that little tiny area in me that still wishes, and sometimes it raises up and pinches me. I can squash it, but it's a little bit painful.
How about GOOD people sometimes make bad decisions in picking a partner and instead of sticking it out until death, they end it and become available.
So even though many GOOD people might be taken at a certain age, some become available again. They might have baggage so it would probably help if you are more tolerant the older you get.
I know that for me it is almost impossible to find a guy who was never married, no kids, good job, good looks, between 37-50. If somebody is 45 and was never married, there is a big possibility, that there is something seriously wrong with him. So I know I have to be a bit more forgiving and maybe take a guy who already has kids or doesn't look that great or divorced.
I really don't like the statement that ALL GOOD people are taken at a certain age. Good people get divorced, too, not just BAD people!
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LOL.. yeah, I guess that didn't come across well. I apologize. I was trying to say the activities I find fun are usually dominated by men and typically thought of as "guy activities."
I'm teasing. But I kind of agree with you... people often say take classes, do meet ups, do activities that you love doing and meet people that way.
Ok. I've taken classes, almost all men, except for the couples. Went with a group with a shared interest to Peru last year... 20 people, one single (too young) a woman, one m/f couple, the rest guys.
I mean, if I was into cooking and sipping wine and commenting on hints of clove and tannins or whatever I'm sure I'd meet a girl that way, or if I was into the tango... but I'm interested in fun stuff (boy stuff).
How about GOOD people sometimes make bad decisions in picking a partner and instead of sticking it out until death, they end it and become available.
So even though many GOOD people might be taken at a certain age, some become available again. They might have baggage so it would probably help if you are more tolerant the older you get.
I know that for me it is almost impossible to find a guy who was never married, no kids, good job, good looks, between 37-50. If somebody is 45 and was never married, there is a big possibility, that there is something seriously wrong with him. So I know I have to be a bit more forgiving and maybe take a guy who already has kids or doesn't look that great or divorced.
I really don't like the statement that ALL GOOD people are taken at a certain age. Good people get divorced, too, not just BAD people!
This is a very good point. Often times good people divorce (or are abandoned by) non-good people. Putting them back out there. But like I said in my post, the problem is that not so good person is out there too and you have a chance of meeting that person instead of the good one.
It's not that good people aren't out there, it's just that they can be a bit harder to find the older you get.
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If somebody is 45 and was never married, there is a big possibility, that there is something seriously wrong with him.
See, this is the mindset that needs to be disposed of. I know plenty of good men and women 45 or above, or approaching 45, and there is nothing wrong with them at all.
How about GOOD people sometimes make bad decisions in picking a partner and instead of sticking it out until death, they end it and become available.
So even though many GOOD people might be taken at a certain age, some become available again. They might have baggage so it would probably help if you are more tolerant the older you get.
I know that for me it is almost impossible to find a guy who was never married, no kids, good job, good looks, between 37-50. If somebody is 45 and was never married, there is a big possibility, that there is something seriously wrong with him. So I know I have to be a bit more forgiving and maybe take a guy who already has kids or doesn't look that great or divorced.
I really don't like the statement that ALL GOOD people are taken at a certain age. Good people get divorced, too, not just BAD people!
lol....37-50, good job, good looks, no kids, normal, not a player....lol he has 20 women lining up to marry him at any given minute.
What would separate you from the other 19 women? Figure out what makes you better than the other 19 women, and I guarantee you will find the guy you are looking for.
Because I want to be. Didn't like marriage, don't particularly miss being in a relationship, don't see myself dating any time soon. Too many other things on my plate. Check back in a year. Thank you, drive through.
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